I don't know how to be normal when it comes to people

WOW...For a second there I thought you were describing me...I mean I've got friends but, I dunno I'm just always alone id rather be up in my room alone then, out with anyone. I never trust anyone and always wonder if someone I talk to has an ulterior motive...Personally I think it's good to be this way not all isolated but always thinking ahead, never leaving your self open to pain, tourment and riducule...By the way I voted your question as normal.

This is totally normal.. I'm like you and I'm also a slow-thinker.. When I think of what I'm going to say and then start saying it.. I realize they changed the point they're talking about. But, you can overcome this conversation thing by listening to what they're saying and either you like it or not, you can tell them if you agree/disagree and tell them why u do. This will let you speak your mind even if you said very few words. They will listen to you. I tried it myself and I found people who agree with what I'm saying.

And about friends.. this is my fav. quote:
"If you make it plain you like people, it's hard for them to resist liking you back."
Lois McMaster Bujold

OH YEAH, I FORGOT TO MENTION,AND THIS COULD HELP YOU TOO, THE MORE UNPREDITABLE POSITIONS YOU PUT YOURSELF IN THE MORE YOU COULD OPEN UP. LIKE FOR INSTANCE JOIN CLUBS, SPORTS, MUSIC, GO PLACES OR START A HOBBY, PUT YOURSELF AROUND MORE PEOPLE SO YOU CAN KNOW WHAT YOU ENJOY.
WHEN YOU GET TO A POINT WHERE YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW WHAT YOU WANT, YOU GOT TO PUT YOURSELF IN A PLACE THAT IS DIFFERENT, SO THAT YOU CAN COMMUNICATE OR DO DIFFERENT THINGS.

I think you just described me... I know what your going through trust me I have been through a lot too. When it comes to talking to people sometimes I just don't know what to say when people talked to me. I focus more on what their saying and their actions and it kind of becomes like I am analyzing them. Instead of having friends I would rather listen to what a group of people are saying or watch what their doing. I kind of feel like I don't have a mind of my own like if someone asked me what music I like to listen to what shows I like to watch It be a complete blank ...nothing interest me. Sound like you yet? Its weird I don't know what to call it but I want to make friends but I don't know how to...My mom said it might be a social disorder or depression or something like that maybe thats what you have to. I try but I always feel like an outsider I cant focus on my responce to a person but more of why they said it and what they were doing when they said it. See i know how u feel I thought i was the only one :(

I over analyze things all the time. I pay more attention to what I think the person is actually thinking then saying. I sit and wonder why they're doing that and why their behavior is the way it is.

I haven't had the friend problem, but I can totally agree with your over analyze thing.I also understand the not able to describe myself and stuff.

The people that are saying this is normal are wrong. Being loner isn't normal at all, it can lead to depression. You should try talking to new people, and change up the way you dress. Wear what is in style, it doesn't have to be exactly what everyone else is wearing. You can add your own person flares to it. You should really figure out something you like, because everyone needs their own personality.

If you looked into the real wotrld and how it operates you would be even worse. I sugest go live near Dollywood and enjoy theme parks and water parks and more recreation than you can stand. Laughter is the best medicine.

SWEETIE EVERY ONE DOES THAT, DOESNT MAKE YOU AN OUTSIDER YOU JUST HAVENT FOUND YOUR GROUP OF PEOPLE JUST YET. YOU ARE AN OBSERVER AND THAT IS A GREAT QUALITY TO HAVE AS AN INDIVIDUAL. IF YOU REALLY WANT TO ENJOY YOURSELF, YOU SHOULD GO HANG OUT WITH PEOPLE AND FORGET ALL THATS ON YOUR MIND AND HAVE FUN, TALK ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT, OR DO WHAT YOU WANT, YOU ARE A FREE PERSON, JUST ENJOY YOURSELF.

So try to stop overlooking things.... Just be friendly.

Amazing how loneliness becomes kind of a self-perpetuating hole ... you are cut off, can't relate and remain ... lonely.

Do you see any other ways of being and behaving?

bra loners rule