I think it's neat you've already recognized that you have a fear of rejection that makes you do this.
I too struggle to put any effort to keep in touch with people, but if they make the effort, I don't necessarily push them away. Which means I never take days to respond to a text. (Alas, I rarely or never initiate) In my case the fear was that I might become this delusional possessive/obsessive person that would never let someone go no matter what, therefore losing my rationality and groundedness. And guess what? Turns out I could still be level headed no matter how much I emotionally invested myself in someone.
Give yourself some credit. Meet people until you can make a friend who's so caring and genuine that being rejected becomes an impossibility. In due time you may realize that your fear of rejection was much greater than what would happen to you if you were actually rejected.
I don't keep in touch
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I think it's neat you've already recognized that you have a fear of rejection that makes you do this.
I too struggle to put any effort to keep in touch with people, but if they make the effort, I don't necessarily push them away. Which means I never take days to respond to a text. (Alas, I rarely or never initiate) In my case the fear was that I might become this delusional possessive/obsessive person that would never let someone go no matter what, therefore losing my rationality and groundedness. And guess what? Turns out I could still be level headed no matter how much I emotionally invested myself in someone.
Give yourself some credit. Meet people until you can make a friend who's so caring and genuine that being rejected becomes an impossibility. In due time you may realize that your fear of rejection was much greater than what would happen to you if you were actually rejected.