He's from India his parents had an arranged married and sex was thought of only as an act to make babies. He's not that bad, but I know this man inside and out I know he would not go along with anything kinky.
We have been drunk, I have joked or brought it up during intimate moments and it kind of killed the moment. He always says stuff, "What we have is great, we don't need to change anything.' If I push it there will be no action for that night.
Well, you could try showing him an illustrated copy of the Kama Sutra. There once was a time, in India, when sex was much more highly regarded.
But, if he is religious and seriously believes that sex is only for "making babies," then you have quite a battle on your hands. The root of the problem lies in the religion itself. And, the only way to deal with it--in the long term--is to deal with the root cause. You need to challenge the religious ideas, which inevitably means challenging the religion itself, which is no easy task.
It might not be necessary to turn him into a complete non-believer (e.g., an atheist, in the case of god-centric religions). There are plenty of semi-religious folks who enjoy good sex. But, those who have fundamentalistic religious beliefs, who try to remain consistent with religious ideas, inevitably have difficulties with sex.
He believes in God but he's not religious at all. I am very much more religious than him. He doesn't believe sex is only for making babies, his parents do.
I don't want him to become an atheist, I would have never married him he was.
I don't have the level of intimacy with my husband I would like
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He's from India his parents had an arranged married and sex was thought of only as an act to make babies. He's not that bad, but I know this man inside and out I know he would not go along with anything kinky.
We have been drunk, I have joked or brought it up during intimate moments and it kind of killed the moment. He always says stuff, "What we have is great, we don't need to change anything.' If I push it there will be no action for that night.
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Well, you could try showing him an illustrated copy of the Kama Sutra. There once was a time, in India, when sex was much more highly regarded.
But, if he is religious and seriously believes that sex is only for "making babies," then you have quite a battle on your hands. The root of the problem lies in the religion itself. And, the only way to deal with it--in the long term--is to deal with the root cause. You need to challenge the religious ideas, which inevitably means challenging the religion itself, which is no easy task.
It might not be necessary to turn him into a complete non-believer (e.g., an atheist, in the case of god-centric religions). There are plenty of semi-religious folks who enjoy good sex. But, those who have fundamentalistic religious beliefs, who try to remain consistent with religious ideas, inevitably have difficulties with sex.
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He believes in God but he's not religious at all. I am very much more religious than him. He doesn't believe sex is only for making babies, his parents do.
I don't want him to become an atheist, I would have never married him he was.