You don't need to talk about your past. And, you don't want to enumerate all the kinky things you want to do--that could make him very uncomfortable. But, what you CAN do is ask, suggest, offer, or just plain do without asking, one NEW thing every once in a while. Once you've done it once, it is easier to do it again.
Make a list of those things you liked to do in the past, but keep it secret. Then, from time to time, choose one new thing from that list, and figure out a way to introduce it into your next session. If he asks WHY you want to do that, you could mention that you used to do that in the past, or you read about it in a woman's magazine, or you just heard about it from a girl friend. In any case, you want to TRY it to see what it feels like.
If he doesn't want to do a particular thing, don't get upset. Just accept his decision, wait a few days or weeks, and try something else.
After a few months, things might be a lot kinkier than they are now.
I don't have the level of intimacy with my husband I would like
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Just take one small step at a time.
You don't need to talk about your past. And, you don't want to enumerate all the kinky things you want to do--that could make him very uncomfortable. But, what you CAN do is ask, suggest, offer, or just plain do without asking, one NEW thing every once in a while. Once you've done it once, it is easier to do it again.
Make a list of those things you liked to do in the past, but keep it secret. Then, from time to time, choose one new thing from that list, and figure out a way to introduce it into your next session. If he asks WHY you want to do that, you could mention that you used to do that in the past, or you read about it in a woman's magazine, or you just heard about it from a girl friend. In any case, you want to TRY it to see what it feels like.
If he doesn't want to do a particular thing, don't get upset. Just accept his decision, wait a few days or weeks, and try something else.
After a few months, things might be a lot kinkier than they are now.