My dads like this. He just thinks hes king of the world and everyone is supposed to bow down. He is so in his role of dictator he tried to send me to my room for punishment at age 31 because I didnt act like his word was law. When I told him I didnt think I would go sit in my old room he was literally shocked and kicked me out from visiting. Then the next day he called me acting like nothing happened. Anyway it took me years and years to even butt heads with my dad even a little bit. Its really easy to fall into a submissive role and be unable to break it. I still stress to this day over what his reactions will be to decisions I know he wouldnt approve of. I was also 29 before I cut my hair because it was forbidden by my dad and to this day I pretend to be a strict vegetarian because my dads reaction would be severe if found out. Sounds like you still live at home so its hard to assert yourself in your situation but if I could go back and do my life again I might have asserted myself a bit more. Been respectful but not a doormat and puppet. Had some of my own ideas and stuck to them. Cause I know, at least with me the more I let myself be controlled the more it became second nature to be controlled by him from big things to little things. And now I am controlled by the anxieties the thoughts of how will daddy respond to this brings on me. Its sucky. Stand up for yourself politely at least in some things .Wish I had . Btw I wouldnt pop him in the nose though. Not unless you have a stable place to live first. I think chances are pretty slim thats what he wants and chances are fairly high that hes just a jerk and thats what he needs.
I don't get it, is my dad training his kids to be submissive?
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My dads like this. He just thinks hes king of the world and everyone is supposed to bow down. He is so in his role of dictator he tried to send me to my room for punishment at age 31 because I didnt act like his word was law. When I told him I didnt think I would go sit in my old room he was literally shocked and kicked me out from visiting. Then the next day he called me acting like nothing happened. Anyway it took me years and years to even butt heads with my dad even a little bit. Its really easy to fall into a submissive role and be unable to break it. I still stress to this day over what his reactions will be to decisions I know he wouldnt approve of. I was also 29 before I cut my hair because it was forbidden by my dad and to this day I pretend to be a strict vegetarian because my dads reaction would be severe if found out. Sounds like you still live at home so its hard to assert yourself in your situation but if I could go back and do my life again I might have asserted myself a bit more. Been respectful but not a doormat and puppet. Had some of my own ideas and stuck to them. Cause I know, at least with me the more I let myself be controlled the more it became second nature to be controlled by him from big things to little things. And now I am controlled by the anxieties the thoughts of how will daddy respond to this brings on me. Its sucky. Stand up for yourself politely at least in some things .Wish I had . Btw I wouldnt pop him in the nose though. Not unless you have a stable place to live first. I think chances are pretty slim thats what he wants and chances are fairly high that hes just a jerk and thats what he needs.