I don't get it

I was on facebook, and I saw a picture my sister had posted and in the picture she was wearing this dress. I told her I thought the dress looked ugly and then after some replies she got mad, and then blocked me. then next thing you know, i'm getting messages from my sister and she's getting all mad at me. then my mother is talking about how it was mean. I don't get it. I had an opinion and my relatives wanna put me on blast for it? I did nothing wrong here. i'm tired of everyone I know trying to make me think I am in the wrong when I didn't even do anything. Although, I will have to admit, I did kind of find their reactions funny lol.

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  • Mini69

    You sound like a total dick head. If you have nothing nice to say about someone’s attire then why can’t you just say nothing? Did your sister even ask your opinion on her dress? She probably thought she looked really nice, so of course she would be upset if her dick head brother starts insulting the way she looks!

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    • First of all, i'm not obligated to not say my opinion just so nobody gets butthurt. i'll say something whether it is nice, or not. second of all, no she did not ask for my opinion, but does that mean I won't say anything? no.

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      • Mini69

        I never said you were obligated to not state your opinion. The fact of the matter is that you were rude and spiteful towards your sister by saying what you said. A civilised and decent person would not want to be rude and spiteful towards their sister for no good reason. A civilised and decent person would keep their negative personal opinions to themselves. It’s not like her dress had any negative impact on your life so why would you want to be so horrible about it. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that what you said was offensive, even someone of your, clearly limited intelligence, should be able to work that out!

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        • Tough shit. not everyone is going to keep their mouth shut because people wanna be snowflakes. I have a right to state my opinion, so I stated it. I thought her dress was ugly, so me being outspoken, I made that clear Mrs. Goody Goody. If my opinion came off as rude, too bad.

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  • 1234tellmethatyoulovememore

    You're socially inept and as a result your entire family is mad at you.

    Big L.

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    • Actually...they're not :)

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  • 1WeirdGuy

    You are in the wrong here and the fact that you cant see that shows you are either really young or have narcissistic thinking.

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    • No, I am not. it's not my fault she got upset.

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      • Boojum

        But it is their fault that you got upset?

        Your OP and every one of your replies reeks of narcissism.

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        • Ah yes, of course you're going to tell me i'm a narcissist because you disagree with me lol.

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  • bbrown95

    It's important to know when to keep your mouth shut in life. It's okay to have that opinion, but it isn't always necessary to share it, especially if it will only result in hurting someone.

    This is one of those cases in which "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" is good advice to go by.

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    • It's not required that I keep my mouth shut. It's also okay to state an opinion one has, and it isn't unnecessary to share that. I'm not going to keep my mouth shut, so that someone's feelings isn't hurt. If someone is hurt by my opinion then too bad.

      And I do not have to go by the phrase if I don't want to. It's shitty advice is all it is. Even if what I say isn't nice, i'll say it anyways. I do what the fuck I want.

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      • bbrown95

        I never said it was "required", but it sure will help you out in the long run. Nobody likes a loudmouth, and if you're not careful, one of these days you might run across someone who doesn't take too kindly to you running your mouth and does something about it (whether that's right or wrong is another story for another day, but it's a fact that there are short tempered people out there who aren't afraid to engage in a physical altercation over someone opening their mouth when they shouldn't; just look at the road rage that starts off with someone giving a dirty look or gesturing). Best case scenario, you will make a lot of enemies running around saying unnecessarily rude things.

        As my late stepfather used to say to me when I was a mouthy teenager, "Don't let your alligator mouth overrun your hummingbird ass."

        It is unnecessary to share an opinion that has no intention but to start unnecessary drama or hurt someone's feelings. It was not crucial that you let your sister know you thought her dress was ugly.

        You say that if someone's feelings are hurt because of your opinion, "too bad". I hope you feel the same way if someone shares an unsavory opinion about you as well.

        Feel free to take or leave my "shitty advice", but don't come crying to us that people think you're a rude ass and disapprove of your words and actions, either. When you post to an open forum, you are opening yourself up to feedback from everyone, both positive and negative.

        If you plan to "do what the fuck you want", why even share this with us knowing you'll get advice? Sounds like you crave drama to me.

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        • I never said it was "required", but it sure will help you out in the long run. Nobody likes a loudmouth, and if you're not careful, one of these days you might run across someone who doesn't take too kindly to you running your mouth and does something about it (whether that's right or wrong is another story for another day, but it's a fact that there are short tempered people out there who aren't afraid to engage in a physical altercation over someone opening their mouth when they shouldn't; just look at the road range that starts off with someone giving a dirty look or gesturing). Best case scenario, you will make a lot of enemies running around saying unnecessarily rude things".

          I'm one of those short tempered people, very short tempered actually. And I also am not afraid to engage in physical altercations. P.s. I'm very anti-social so I most likely won't even look at someone. And nobody has ever dared to look at me. And trust me, i've already made enemies lol so I do not need you tell me that.

          "As my late stepfather used to say to me when I was a mouthy teenager, "Don't let your alligator mouth overrun your hummingbird ass".

          Don't care what you're stepfather use to say lol.

          "It is unnecessary to share an opinion that has no intention but to start unnecessary drama or hurt someone's feelings. It was not crucial that you let your sister know you thought her dress was ugly".

          Never said that was the intention behind it. And I don't care whether it was crucial or not I let her know lol.

          "You say that if someone's feelings are hurt because of your opinion, "too bad". I hope you feel the same way if someone shares an unsavory opinion about you as well".

          I've already dealt with people that have had an unsavory opinion about me. I didn't care. I just laughed at them.

          "Feel free to take or leave my "shitty advice", but don't come crying to us that people think you're a rude ass and disapprove of your words and actions, either. When you post to an open forum, you are opening yourself up to feedback from everyone, both positive and negative".

          Trust me, I feel free to take it or leave it. And you make it seem like I care if people think i'm rude and disapprove of my words and actions. People think i'm rude? good. People disapprove of my actions and words? oh well. I'll say it/do it anyways.

          "If you plan to "do what the fuck you want", why even ask us here whether you were right or wrong? Sounds like you crave drama to me".


          Wasn't asking if I was right or wrong. And I don't really give a shit how it "sounds". you couldn't be anymore wrong.

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          • bbrown95

            Well, have fun going to jail or getting seriously injured, or possibly killed over something as stupid as opening your mouth over something that didn't need to be said. I hope it will all be worth it.

            It seems like you are obsessed with creating drama with people and love making enemies, which is a miserable way to live. I pity you.

            You also seem like the type who can dish it out, but can't take it.

            It's pathetic how hard you're trying to convince everyone you "don't care", when people who actually "don't care", don't care to try to convince anyone of it. 🤣 You are so deeply insecure it's not even funny. Quite sad, really.

            Oh, I'm sure you're just SOOO tough and intimidating that no one has dared ever give you a dirty look. 🙄🤣 Oh, please. Yet another ridiculous thing you've convinced yourself is true.

            You know for a fact the intention behind saying that was to either piss her off, or hurt her feelings. You would have to be mentally deficient to not recognize this. The reason I said it was not crucial to let her know is because you said it was not unnecessary, in which case it would be necessary, a.k.a. crucial, which it was not.

            You very obviously care about others' opinions, or you wouldn't try so hard to convince people that you "don't care" when it's obvious you do. People who don't care don't put forth that kind of energy. Not to mention that the only point of either of your posts here is to seek validation and attention (or to create drama and troll, but probably a mix of all four). You obviously are very upset at the opinions that contradict yours and did not come here for advice or different opinions.

            Again, for the thousandth time, it's obvious you care. It doesn't even need to be said. 🤣 You obviously have a problem with people disapproving of you or you wouldn't be so defensive and arguing with everyone.

            So you didn't ask if you were right or wrong, but you posted here (under the "Is It Normal/Yes or No Question" option) knowing the feedback you'd receive. Why even do that if you "don't care"?

            You absolutely do crave drama and attention, or you wouldn't share all of this shit about yourself and argue with everyone about it if you truly "didn't care" as you say you do. You act like a smartass spoiled teenager who wants to get out of being held accountable for their words and actions by repeating "I don't care" over and over.

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  • olderdude-xx

    1st rule of talking to any woman. Never criticize her clothing, hair, or jewelry.

    2nd rule: Always find something to compliment.

    3rd rule: Learn to say "I'm sorry" for anything that upsets her - even if you don't know what you are supposed to be sorry about.

    You've got some patching up to do with your sister. Time to open the wallet and treat her... after telling her that you are sorry.

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    • "1st rule of talking to any woman. Never criticize her clothing, hair, or jewelry".

      If I find it worth criticizing, i'm gonna criticize it lmfao. Too bad.

      "2nd rule: Always find something to compliment".

      I'll leave a compliment when I find something worth complimenting.

      "3rd rule: Learn to say "I'm sorry" for anything that upsets her - even if you don't know what you are supposed to be sorry about".

      I already did, which was pretty pointless. I wasn't even sorry. And i'm not obligated to saying sorry if there is nothing to be sorry about. I did nothing wrong.

      "You've got some patching up to do with your sister. Time to open the wallet and treat her... after telling her that you are sorry".

      Now i'm gonna tell you why this was laughable. First of all, I never said me and my sister lived close. we are far away from each other. Second of all, she already said she was over it. Third of all, I for sure, will not be opening my wallet for anyone anytime soon.

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      • Grunewald

        As a side note, your mum really needs to be more understanding towards you.

        She could at least try and understand how you might be thinking about the situation, instead of condemning you. And telling someone to 'open their wallet' is crude. As if money repaired everything, including people's feelings. No disrespect to her, because she's your mother after all, but I can't imagine that she makes herself easy to get along with. Getting along takes two.

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        • Nope, me and my mom get along pretty well. And my mom wasn't criticizing me as much as the other assholes. she just asked why I made that comment.

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      • Grunewald

        I'll agree that the 1st and the 2nd points from OlderDude are generally to be followed. The 3rd is more of a cynical joke, I think.

        If the situation was exactly as you have written, then you are innocent, OP. These unwritten rules of society work to protect vain women from their own crushed egoes and I fully agree that an innocent person shouldn't be put in the wrong just to allow free rein to be given to a vain person's vanity.

        It is one of those senseless cultural things that have developed over time - probably as a result of films and cosmetics advertising.

        Unfortunately like with all these silly unwritten rules of society, it leaves you with a choice of whether you want to play along and stay on good terms with people, or not play along and risk damaging your relationships. I've come to the personal conclusion that in most cases, it's not worth losing friends.

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        • olderdude-xx

          I do not believe my third point was cynical. Experience has taught me that it's incredibly effective.

          Say you are sorry (and what you are personally sorry about may be something else) - but it really works.

          Buy a card, and write a handwritten note in it...

          Flowers with a note attached.

          A stuffy, or perhaps other items targeted to the individual, with a note attached.

          Those do absolute wonders with patching up things with any female (Sister, Mom, Aunt, Niece, Friend, Acquaintance, etc.) I've ever dealt with in my life compared to not doing them.

          I learned these things the hard way; and admit that I was a slow learner.

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          • I don't have to be a goody goody like you. That fake apology I gave her worked. So it looks like she doesn't need a gift. And giving gifts doesn't work for all females, dumbass.

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        • Lol my sister and I, are not friends.

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          • RoseIsabella

            What do you, and your sister have against each other?

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  • You're not supposed to do that.
    There is no reason for posting a comment that you think the dress is ugly other than to be mean. It is not socially acceptable to do.

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    • As if I care what is socially acceptable. I thought the dress was ugly so I said it.

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      • KholatKhult

        Autism

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        • Me? Autistic? no.

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          • Boojum

            I'm willing to believe you aren't on the spectrum.

            In fact, I'm willing to bet that your major malfunction doesn't have an entry in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders; you're simply an immature, opinionated, self-centred fuckwit.

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      • Hookerfall

        Yes u BE HONEST

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  • hauntedbysandwiches

    You must be fun at parties

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    • Nope, I don't go to parties.

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  • RoseIsabella

    What did you expect? Seriously... what did you think would happen?

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    • hauntedbysandwiches

      I'm hoping they're a troll

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      • Well, i'm not.

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        • RoseIsabella

          How old are you?

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          • How old are you?

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            • RoseIsabella

              I'm old enough to know there's a 95% chance that you're just a troll, and young enough to believe that if you're being sincere you're sorely in need of mental health care, because you're obviously not well, and certainly not normal if you're anything, but the bored, and pathetic troll that you most likely are.

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    • I didn't care to expect what would happen. I just don't get why people are trying to make it seem like I was in the wrong, you old saggy titty bitch.

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      • RoseIsabella

        No one cares what you think of your sister's dress. Stop a feeling sorry for yourself, you're not the victim here.

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        • Like I've said saggy titties, I do not care that they don't care what I think of her dress. I decided to say it anyways, nobody has to care in order for me to decide whether I state my opinion or not lol.

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          • RoseIsabella

            So then why do you care if other people say you're wrong? Those other people have just as much of a right to share their opinions that you're wrong as you do to share your opinion that you think you're sister's dress is ugly. It's the same thing. It just feels different when the shoe is on the other foot.

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            • Actually, no. It's no different. And I mean, If I did nothing wrong then I don't know why they're over here calling me out in the first place. but whatever lol.

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  • bigbudchonger

    Are you autistic? (Being serious).

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    • RoseIsabella

      Tha Chonger be bringing it home wit tha real questions.

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    • Nope.

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    You're all wrong.

    You're wrong for intentionally commenting something rude.

    Your sister is wrong for getting butthurt and whining to your mom about it.

    Your mom is wrong for even getting involved between you two. The fact that she even chose a side is also wrong.

    You, your sister, and your mother are all adults, not teenagers. It's normal for teens to get involved in Facebook drama, not adults. It's best to move on from this and focus on different things.
    :)

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    • RoseIsabella

      https://youtu.be/GD6qtc2_AQA
      🤠👍🏻

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    • First of all, My mom didn't get involved. I'm actually the one that told her I made a comment on my sister's dress. All my mom did was pretty much just ask why I had told my sister that, but did say I have a right to my opinion later on. So no, my mom is not in the wrong. The only people that aren't in the wrong is me, and my mom. The rest is.

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      • RoseIsabella

        The people who have given you a hard time for your opinion are just as entitled to their opinions of your comment as you were to make your comment about your sister's dress.

        Life is a two-way street, don't throw punches if you aren't prepared to take a few punches.

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        • But I don't get why they are trying to make it seem like i'm in the wrong, when i'm not is the thing.

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          • 1234tellmethatyoulovememore

            If literally everyone is telling you you are wrong and acting like you are wrong, you just might be in the wrong!

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          • RoseIsabella

            That's just their opinion, just like you say it's just your opinion when you said your sister's dress is ugly.

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  • Correction

    You had an opinion that something was worth criticizing so you criticized it. Your sister and mom had an opinion that something was worth criticizing so they criticized it. I don’t get what you don’t get.

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    • My opinion wasn't worth criticizing.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Your opinion is just as worthy of criticism as your sister's dress, and you can take that however you want!

        However, it does seem that you're one of those people who can dish it out, but can't take it, kiddo.

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        • Never said I couldn't take criticism. The thing is, I did nothing wrong here, So I don't why i'm being criticized in the first place lady.

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          • Correction

            Because they thought you deserved to be criticized. You don’t get to decide what they think is worth criticizing any more than they get to decide what you think is worth criticizing.

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          • Boojum

            If you could accept criticism, you wouldn't be doing your snowflakey whiny baby shit here, brah.

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          • RoseIsabella

            ... because they think you're wrong for sharing what they deem a rude and or unpopular opinion.

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  • Cable4nerds

    Insensitive. Y’all should all act like adults.

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  • Boojum

    I'm pretty crap at recognising posters from what they write here, but the gratuitous insults in your replies makes me recognise you as the person who started a long thread recently. I can't recall the details, but it was something to do with sex, and your only response to people who challenged your baseless assertions and ignorant opinions was the same as here: "I'm right, and you're wrong!"

    I also remember that that thread disappeared. Maybe that's because you were so obnoxious and insulting that it was reported, but I suspect you deleted your OP because you're such a pathetically insecure snowflake that you just couldn't cope with the criticism.

    You really are a very stupid child. As others have said here, sooner or later, you're going to pay for being a mouthy asshole. Maybe you'll learn from that, but I strongly suspect you're one of those dimwits who goes through life whining about how unfair the world is and how awful people are to you, when the reality is that you bring all the shit in your life on yourself.

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    • Lol, how can that be when this is my first post? I don't know who you're talking about, but they aren't me. And yes, I guess I am a stupid child *sigh*. And actually, I won't pay. I don't socialize enough to where I get to the point i'll "Be mouthy". And I'm too much of a homebody to even be around someone, so I can't see it getting to that point. So no, I won't "Pay". Have a nice day :)

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  • pixie_dust

    Maybe not in the wrong, per se, but it was insensitive.

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    • Maybe, but it is what is.

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      • dude_Jones

        Brutal honesty is the hallmark of wankers. Generally, the social consequences are of no concern for you because you can just wank. I’m assuming that’s what you did. Why did you even bother with the post afterwards?

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        • Don't even know. might delete it considering that it was about a situation that happened two days ago.

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