I don't consider people who had non-vaginal sex virgins

A lot of people seem to think that if you don't put a penis into a vagina, you're still a virgin. I never did. To me, anyone who has manually stimulated someone else to orgasm has lost his/her virginity. That includes having anal sex, giving handjobs, blowjobs, bukkake, etc. even if you haven't popped your cherry. If it was unintentional, like if they were kissing and hugging and one of them suddenly orgasmed, I still consider virginity preserved. I consider virginity lost the second someone manually stimulates another to sexual orgasm, regardless of method.

I'm not trying to deride virgins at all. Whether or not someone is a virgin or not means nothing to me on how good of a person they are. But still, in my eyes, intentional direct manual sexual stimulation of someone other than yourself automatically results in a loss of virginity.

Is this a normal viewpoint?

Is It Normal?
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  • I understand your point. It's kind of hard to consider someone is a virgin if they've sucked off half a football team while the other half fucked them in the ass.
    "Oh, but there was no vaginal penetration." LOL.

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  • I agree. Much of it is mindset to me personally. If you are doing everything but vaginal sex you are still in a sexual relationship.. It's pointless to try and call yourself a virgin whilst having (a) sexual partner(s).

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  • Sex is sex to me if a person has had any kind of sex, they are no longer virgins.

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  • I am a 56yr old virgin I have no sexual experience and am totally innocent which is my choice. I am a virgin because I haven't had sexual intercourse and chaste because I abstained from sexual intercourse. I have achieved some good orgasms with a dildo and I have let a person watch me come to orgasm but I am still a virgin.

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  • Retarded. I can orgasm without any...penetration...that's hardly the same as actual sex.

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  • No...and you would be wrong.

    I would count anal as not being much of a virgin anymore ...but people usually say im an anal virgin or im a vaginal virgin.
    Everything else no you are still a virgin.

    So in your eyes what if people were dry humping ...tgey arnt virgins anymore? Your viewpoint just seems silly to me.

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