Gotta be honest..I've had arguments with my gf about the same thing. Every time we go out, she chats up other guys, sometimes extensively. They think they have a shot, as she's the one initiating, and, it pisses me off. I started telling her I hated it, and, while not "forbidding" it, strongly making her understand..Next time this happens, they better pay the bill and take your ass home, b/c I'm leaving.
Two weeks ago, we were out. She's a football fan, as am I, and she was really getting on me about my team, which isn't hers, along with two guys next to her she was chatting and laughing with. I didn't care about the football stuff, only that she was putting out the signal that either, or both, of these guys could have her. The laughing, leaning into one of them..All with me there.
When I got up to go to the men's room, I leaned in close and told her, quite direct and angry "I'm going to piss..Let these guys fucking take you home". That had an effect on her. She became very quiet, as if knowing she'd crossed a line, and I was dead serious about leaving her there. Also told her, since she has a cane for her bad back but rarely takes it in public when we're out (leaves it in my car), "I'll drop your cane off in your front yard".
Thing is, she knows, and even said "I know you don't like when I talk to guys". If it takes me being this forceful with her, and threatening, maybe doing, leaving her to find her own way home, so be it. We do well together, but, this chatting up every fkn guy wherever we go has to stop. Putting my foot down seems to work. Some call it control..I call it respect.
I don't allow my wife to talk to other men
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Gotta be honest..I've had arguments with my gf about the same thing. Every time we go out, she chats up other guys, sometimes extensively. They think they have a shot, as she's the one initiating, and, it pisses me off. I started telling her I hated it, and, while not "forbidding" it, strongly making her understand..Next time this happens, they better pay the bill and take your ass home, b/c I'm leaving.
Two weeks ago, we were out. She's a football fan, as am I, and she was really getting on me about my team, which isn't hers, along with two guys next to her she was chatting and laughing with. I didn't care about the football stuff, only that she was putting out the signal that either, or both, of these guys could have her. The laughing, leaning into one of them..All with me there.
When I got up to go to the men's room, I leaned in close and told her, quite direct and angry "I'm going to piss..Let these guys fucking take you home". That had an effect on her. She became very quiet, as if knowing she'd crossed a line, and I was dead serious about leaving her there. Also told her, since she has a cane for her bad back but rarely takes it in public when we're out (leaves it in my car), "I'll drop your cane off in your front yard".
Thing is, she knows, and even said "I know you don't like when I talk to guys". If it takes me being this forceful with her, and threatening, maybe doing, leaving her to find her own way home, so be it. We do well together, but, this chatting up every fkn guy wherever we go has to stop. Putting my foot down seems to work. Some call it control..I call it respect.