I don’t know how to be with men

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I have been speaking on and off to this guy and I finally asked if he was interested as he is awful at messaging. We went on a date and it was really good. I would say he is out of my league and I feel like my anxiety is going to ruin this again. Because I don’t like messaging first Incase I’m annoying. If someone stops replying I don’t like messaging first so on and so forth.
He has mentioned doing something else but not in serious context he hasn’t asked me and I’m kind of waiting. But I also feel like asking if he wants to see me again? But shouldn’t he be the one to do that? He’s terrible at messaging and never carries on a convo. Unless I’m boring. Will I come across as annoying if he stops replying then I say something else ??

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  • bigbudchonga
    5 years ago

    We're pretty simple creatures. Just treat us nicely, suck our dicks, and then we're happy. I know it's hard to do, but something to benefit both how you are perceived and how you feel is just to not over worry about it. Just message him and see if he wants to do something, and if he does then doll yourself up nicely.

    Also I wouldn't worry about your anxiety runining it. A lot of guys like to care for a woman and protect them, especially if we see them suffering with something. Then you just want to cuddle them and make sure they're alright.

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  • Tealights
    5 years ago

    You're just overthinking it all. Men are many things, but at their core they want the same things we want in their own way.

    The issue I see here, is that your perception of yourself is negative and anxiety has nothing to do with that. You're not annoying, and if a guy finds you annoying, then forget them.

    Also, bigbudchonga is right in a sense, but that advice fits for those in an established relationship already. Good men in relationships will appreciate being treated well, dick sucked by their girlfriend, seeing their girl all dolled up, and so on. Not every guy you come across will treat you well, no matter how hard you try not to be annoying. So always, always put yourself first when dating; never put yourself in an uncomfortable situation to please a guy or give more of yourself than you intended to win a man's favor, because some of them aren't even worth it no matter how handsome they are. Love will come, so don't panic.\

    Lastly, I know I sound so cheesy; however, dating is a bitch and if you do all you can for one guy that's a "maybe", you'll feel so used when he doesn't stay.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I just want to talk to him more but if he was interested in me he would do it ?
      Do I ask if he wants to see me again?

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  • HeTalksInMaths
    5 years ago

    how old are you

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