I don’t know how to ask for more?

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I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 months... we have been meeting up every Friday Saturday for definate. And sometimes a day in the week, the past couple of weeks we have met up he hasn’t been himself.... he’s been ill... but he had a kidney transplant last year so that still affects him. But this week he hasn’t mentioned meeting only on Saturday... so tonight we aren’t meeting I asked what he was doing and he said a few jobs then going to bed. I usually go to his and we watch a film but he doesn’t seem fussed, I don’t want to mention meeting more I want him too... but could this just be because he isn’t well? If I wasn’t well I’d still want to see him.

The beginning of this week I asked him if he wanted me to go round and help if he was up to it and his reply was ‘I don’t want to put this misery on you’ I feel like he’s going to leave me so I’m being distant because I’ve been hurt before.

I don’t know how many days couples meet at this stage.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    You need to talk to him, honey. People aren't mind readers, especially not people who are suffering with serious health problems.

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  • Tealights
    4 years ago

    Ugh dont know why men do this dumb shit.

    Basically something is bothering him emotionally. He doesn't know how to handle it and is sulking. Since youre a new girlfriend then he may think that showing any sign of distress may make him seem weak. So instead of taking that leap and talking to you about it, hes pushing you away over a self-fullfilling prophecy of the relationship ending.

    Tl;dr your boyfriend is being stupid and it's going to cost him a potentially stable relationship.

    What you can do is call him out on his bullshit. Men dont respond well to care and concern like we do, especially if they themselves are unaware of their own behavior. You have to point out the changes and make it clear to him that you're here for him in a very strong tone and to tell you what's wrong cause it's affecting you too. You have to be borderline angry-mom tone about it. If he refuses or make up excuses, then you may need to think deeply about whether you want to move forward with this guy or not.

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  • IrishPotato
    4 years ago

    Stop with the indirect crap. Be honest with him, tell him how you feel and it'll all work out.

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  • SKDM007
    4 years ago

    "can i have some more, please?"

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  • cipro
    4 years ago

    Serious health problems can leave anyone depressed.

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