I don’t know how i feel

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So my ex best friend is obsessed with me. I’m not trying to be shallow or make assumptions. He really really loves me and makes no effort in hiding it and used to put so much effort into winning me over. I always tried to friend zone him and remain friends but eventually his sensitivity and all the effort he put in to win me over rubbed off on me and I started feeling conflicted with urges to kiss him and touch him despite my insistence I wasn’t attracted to him in that way. Somehow I managed to confess my feelings to him and we dated for a short period of time, but the feelings suddenly slipped away and I regretted my decision. I couldn’t decide whether I liked him or not. In the end I really hurt him and we only recently started speaking again but suddenly the urge to kiss him has come back! He kissed me and I let him just yesterday and now everything is confusing again. I hate myself for hurting him and I don’t understand why I can’t just pick a side and how to feel about him. Any advice?

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  • Lestat565
    5 years ago

    Yeah here’s some advice. Stop screwing with his head and have some self control. If you can’t control yourself then cut him out of your life. It would be the nicest thing you could do for him. Your not doing him any favors by even being friends with him. It just gives him false hope.

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  • pleaseleaveme
    5 years ago

    You should definitely try to cut him out of your life for your sake and his.

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  • Floopington
    5 years ago

    I always say that if you're less than 100% sure about something like this, the answer is no. It sounds like that would be healthier for the both of you. This is clearly a confusing time in your life, and it's hard not knowing what to do, but if indecision is ruining your friendship, maybe deciding on a no and sticking to it is the wisest decision.

    Best regards, I hope you manage to sort your feelings out. :)

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  • Ellenna
    5 years ago

    Having someone strongly attracted to you can do this, but it's not fair to him. If you hate yourself for hurting him (regret would be more appropriate than hate) then stop doing it!

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