I do nothing and i'm increasingly happy with that

I am at the end of my 20's and have found myself in the position of not having to do anything if I don't want to. And I have begun to realize that what I don't want to do... is anything.

I don't work, because I don't have to.

I don't go out, because I don't have to.

I don't have anyone I would consider a friend, because I don't have to.

The family I used to be close to is dead, but the rest I don't talk to, because I don't have to.

I spend my day in my house or yard, tending my plants, making stuff, watching movies, reading... and that's it.

I have no desire to be around anyone. I did try to "make friends" when I moved to this city, out of some sense of obligation because that's what people do. But I quickly realized that the reason I don't tend to hold onto friends when I move is because I never wanted to spend time with them to begin with. I just had to, because back then I didn't have as many resources to be fully independent. I find people to be a lot more effort than they're worth, almost always disappointing, selfish, shallow, or high maintenance, and make simple things more complicated than they need to be. Life is so smooth and effortless without other people throwing wrenches in everything.

There are things I think I would enjoy for work, but the trade-off isn't worth it to me. I wouldn't be allowed to look how I wanted, I'd have to work ridiculous hours for far too little pay (even if I don't need the money, I still take issue with the insult of today's ever-falling wages), I'd have no flexibility, no energy for anything else, and, possibly, I'd have to finish the degree I bailed on (because I didn't need to do it), which means a bunch of pointless silly paperwork to impress someone who's probably no more intelligent or educated than I am. In the age of online access to almost everything ever published, it seems ridiculous to me that we still need some stuffed shirt to sign a piece of paper to prove we know things that you can very easily teach yourself.

At the end of the day, I don't need to do any of these things. I don't need anyone to like me because I can afford to just pay for whatever I need. I don't need a job for the same reason. I don't have expensive tastes, so I see no reason I couldn't maintain this for the foreseeable future, if not the rest of my life.

So... I do nothing. And I don't really have any desire to change any of that. To be honest, the only "social" thing I ever do anymore is a morning outdoor yoga class, and that's only because everyone else is too tired to talk afterwards (probably because they're overworked), so it's easy for me to just hustle out at the end without being bothered. I go for the beautiful views, not the people.

I just am not interested in whatever versions of life are available to me. I find our society very selfish and extremely boring, and after living in several other countries, have concluded that most places are just as bad or worse in their own ways. So I came home, and chose to do nothing. I prefer being alone and doing my own thing.

Is it normal?

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Based on 36 votes (21 yes)
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  • RoseIsabella

    Honestly, I'm envious of your position. At one point I thought you might be kinda depressed, and maybe you are, but the fact that you can get to a yoga class everyday leads me to believe that you are probably not especially depressed either.

    I'm not going to get too specific about my own personal struggles, but I will say that my finances aren't especially good. I've been living with depression, and anxiety for the majority of my life. About two years ago I relocated to the Houston area to attempt to finish a degree, and pursue a relationship. Unfortunately the person I was with turned out to be a narcissistic abuser sort of guy. I left him on the ninth of September of last year, and have since relocated to Dover, Delaware to be near my elderly parents. I used to go to a support group for abuse victims/survivors, but I don't go anymore. I did take a blogging class, and I really enjoyed it, but now I don't much feel like blogging. I wouldn't mind being in a position where I could afford to only do what I want to do. Since the beginning of the summer I have become increasingly reclusive, and started to wonder whether or not I'm an introvert. I don't go anywhere unless I absolutely have to do so. I kinda want to go to a few places, but I guess not enough to actually bother. Anyway, I don't know why I'm telling you all of this.

    I'm not mad at ya. I think a lot of people have this visceral response to others who don't care to socialize very much. I honestly feel rather burned out on people. I dunno if it's normal, but I wouldn't mind another cat or a dog. I quite often think that people are overrated. Too often people have this nasty habit of trying to push their preferences on others. I just want to sleep every chance I get... meh.

    I dunno why I felt the need to unload on you so much, but I wish the best of luck for you.

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    • CatVel

      I am sure I must be aberrant in some way or another, for having so little social interaction to not only not bother me, but be preferable to having more. But honestly, when the solution to everything I don't like is both very simple and very attainable, and I'm happy this way, I just don't see any reason why I would try to change to be more "typical." It is cheaper and easier to just not do the stuff I don't enjoy, and the results are entirely satisfactory to me.

      I hope things get better for you, and thanks.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Thanks!

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    • nikkiclaire

      Luv ya Auntie 😊

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      • RoseIsabella

        Hugs to you, Nikki. 🤗

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  • leggs91200

    Once you have had enough of people's crap, you tend to want to just do your own thing.

    Some people are happy at home.

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    • Not the OP but I’m at starting to feel the same.

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  • cipro

    If you have the money to support yourself then its normal.

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  • nikkiclaire

    This is the best Is It Normal post ever. I can leave this site now, knowing at least one other person in the world feels the same as I do.

    Thank you!!

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    • barefoot_on_the_sand

      U rich?

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      • nikkiclaire

        Depends on your definition of rich 😊

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        • barefoot_on_the_sand

          As in lots of money to spend.

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          • nikkiclaire

            Nope, not me.

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  • SwickDinging

    This is more normal than society wants you to believe.

    I find being around other people very irritating unless they are exceptionally great. There are 5 people in my life I consider to meet this standard. Every other person I interact with I merely do so out of obligation or social pressure. I never prefer social interaction over spending time alone.

    I envy your honesty and wish that I had the balls to live the way that you do.

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  • Vvaas

    I mean if you're happy like that who cares what others think

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  • McBean

    Nice that you are happily retired in your twenties. Watch out for perils ahead. The greatest of these being hot women. Introverts have less risk, but testosterone will warp your perceptions. FWBs quickly turn into girlfriends. If you follow this road, misery will haunt you. Being a non-committed masturbater will help protect your assets.

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    • CatVel

      Excuse me? Why are you assuming I'm a man?

      Also, how would I wind up with a partner if I don't want to be around people? The entire reason I retired is to not have to be around people.

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      • McBean

        If you are not a man, you have almost nothing to worry about. You will be spared from death by testosterone. Thrifty millennial habits will sustain you. May you live long and well.

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        • CatVel

          I find your notion that women have lesser sex drives, or that men aren't freeloaders just often much as women, to be kind of comical. Trust me, neither is true. That's why I wouldn't date a man any more than I'd date a woman. A Hitachi takes care of the sex drive issue very nicely.

          But, thanks. Thrifty Minnenialism definitely does help.

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          • McBean

            To clarify, my notion is that women can abstain from sex without detrimental physical effects like hypertension and the others that affect celibate men. Men and women are equal at freeloading as well as most personality disorders. If you don't fuck anybody, freeloading, or other haunting characteristics won't be an issue.

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            • CatVel

              I think you're referring to the affects of lack of physical touch. There is no physical effect specifically from lack of partner sex for men. If you're getting off at all, you're getting everything sex has to offer you, physically.

              In terms of touch in general, I am aware there are supposedly negative effects of that, but it seems to me that's highly variable, given that some people don't get the same benefits to start with, and also at a certain point I'm sure the annoyance of people that I have cancels out whatever benefit there is from touch.

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  • Mehereok1

    As time goes on, you'll realize that you're making the right move. Maybe go out and socialize a little more, as we all need people contact, but the rest of it? Nothing wrong with living your life the way you want to. And have an emergency contact or two for home or health issues. Staying home and tending to your own is a goal most of us have.

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  • BleedingPain

    First I thought you were going to be some punk ass NEET kid. Sounds more like someone who worked to make all that money you have to spend.

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    • CatVel

      I am a punk kid, just a clever one. Also, no one retires in their 20's by working in the traditional sense. Thre work system of our society is explicitly designed to keep you poor. We do it by being smarter than the work system.

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      • BleedingPain

        👍🏻 Working the system at its finest

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  • If that’s what make you happy I’m glad for you, OP.

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  • angryblonde

    I feel the same way

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  • raisinbran

    What do you make?

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  • Servian

    You are a burden on the economy

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    • CatVel

      How? All I do is spend my money. See, this is why people are so boring, they say such dumb things. XD

      And besides that, I don't owe "the economy" anything anyway. I don't owe anyone anything merely for existing.

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      • How do you have money to spend?

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        • CatVel

          What Rose said. ;)

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        • RoseIsabella

          OP, is probably independently wealthy.

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    • RoseIsabella

      You forgot your period at the end of your sentence.

      Also how can OP be a burden on the economy?

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