Real love isn't a feeling it is a choice and behavioral. Usually the feelings come following actions because real love is unconditional. It is a feeling of care and concern about others without being concerned about yourself. Forgiveness is a big part of real love too. We need to practice forgiveness even when others are not sorry because once again it isn't self focused, it is 'others' focused. The 'feeling' of love which I think you are thinking of isn't really love. It is more concerned with how YOU feel versus your care and concern of others. Perhaps you are looking for someone to make you feel a certain way and what they can do for you. Then after they make you feel a certain way, you feel you can return 'love' back to them. Therefore it is conditional and dependent upon what they do for you first. It is normal, and sad, because that is the mindset of mankind. We are all more focused on ourselves than others. But it takes true strength, wholeness and maturity to truly love others because really loving is one of the most difficult things to accoomplish.
I do not care about people
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Real love isn't a feeling it is a choice and behavioral. Usually the feelings come following actions because real love is unconditional. It is a feeling of care and concern about others without being concerned about yourself. Forgiveness is a big part of real love too. We need to practice forgiveness even when others are not sorry because once again it isn't self focused, it is 'others' focused. The 'feeling' of love which I think you are thinking of isn't really love. It is more concerned with how YOU feel versus your care and concern of others. Perhaps you are looking for someone to make you feel a certain way and what they can do for you. Then after they make you feel a certain way, you feel you can return 'love' back to them. Therefore it is conditional and dependent upon what they do for you first. It is normal, and sad, because that is the mindset of mankind. We are all more focused on ourselves than others. But it takes true strength, wholeness and maturity to truly love others because really loving is one of the most difficult things to accoomplish.