This really captured my attention since i have been having the same problem.
A guy i liked admitted his feelings for me and once he did so i just pushed him away and explained that i didn't want a relationship. It was like a switch turned off in my head out of my fear of being in a relationship with someone.
In reply to your comment, that is not always the case. It might seem like a bitch like thing to do but some times there is a deeper reason for it.
In my case: The idea of being in a relationship makes me panic. I feel like i'll lose my independence/freedom and question if this person is even the right one for me. Once this phase is over, the feelings i once had are switched off in order to protect myself and protect the other person. If im not 100% sure about being with someone than it wouldn't be fair to go though being in a relationship with them, therefore the best thing to do is express your feelings and keep them at a distance.
It's not that: once we have it, we lose interest. We still care, we still feel bad about not predicting our future feelings/actions and personally, i still want that person close. It's just harder for some to let people that close to them.
Im just saying, it is easy to judge someone without knowing the reason behind their actions. Not everything is what it seems.
I disliked guys i liked, after they told me they liked me back. IIN?
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This really captured my attention since i have been having the same problem.
A guy i liked admitted his feelings for me and once he did so i just pushed him away and explained that i didn't want a relationship. It was like a switch turned off in my head out of my fear of being in a relationship with someone.
In reply to your comment, that is not always the case. It might seem like a bitch like thing to do but some times there is a deeper reason for it.
In my case: The idea of being in a relationship makes me panic. I feel like i'll lose my independence/freedom and question if this person is even the right one for me. Once this phase is over, the feelings i once had are switched off in order to protect myself and protect the other person. If im not 100% sure about being with someone than it wouldn't be fair to go though being in a relationship with them, therefore the best thing to do is express your feelings and keep them at a distance.
It's not that: once we have it, we lose interest. We still care, we still feel bad about not predicting our future feelings/actions and personally, i still want that person close. It's just harder for some to let people that close to them.
Im just saying, it is easy to judge someone without knowing the reason behind their actions. Not everything is what it seems.