I see. You do know that after birth the majority of women have postnatal depression and research has recently suggested that so do some men. Having children is a very big impact on couples, and i personally think that you guys did not have any 'communication' between you. After a few years couples adjust to each other and they forget that they have to work on the 'spark' it does not just magically happen.
If you guys had kept the relationship 'fresh' but fresh i mean doing the little things you use to do when you met, going on dates, once in a while, you know, recreating the old days here and there would have brought back those feelings and kept the spark fresh. I have only been with my bf for 2 years and that's not even remotely close to 35 years but every week i try and do something spontaneous, go for a walk at night with him, have like a 'movie' day saturdays or whenever we can.
Why don't you try and see if you can do something new, go for lunch, surprise her, buy her flowers, show her something more than just a 'hello' here and there. See if you can kick start something, maybe she is just waiting on you to do something. Even if she acts like she does not care push a little harder, you did cheat so she will always hurt but make her forget about that, do spontaneous things! you are never to old to do anything.
i did it and she won't forgive me or forget it, IIN?
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I see. You do know that after birth the majority of women have postnatal depression and research has recently suggested that so do some men. Having children is a very big impact on couples, and i personally think that you guys did not have any 'communication' between you. After a few years couples adjust to each other and they forget that they have to work on the 'spark' it does not just magically happen.
If you guys had kept the relationship 'fresh' but fresh i mean doing the little things you use to do when you met, going on dates, once in a while, you know, recreating the old days here and there would have brought back those feelings and kept the spark fresh. I have only been with my bf for 2 years and that's not even remotely close to 35 years but every week i try and do something spontaneous, go for a walk at night with him, have like a 'movie' day saturdays or whenever we can.
Why don't you try and see if you can do something new, go for lunch, surprise her, buy her flowers, show her something more than just a 'hello' here and there. See if you can kick start something, maybe she is just waiting on you to do something. Even if she acts like she does not care push a little harder, you did cheat so she will always hurt but make her forget about that, do spontaneous things! you are never to old to do anything.
good luck xx