One question i would like to ask. Why did you cheat? I mean, understading the underlying issues as to why you cheated maybe we can try to formulate or construct an idea as to why she keeps hanging on to it? Yes cheating is awful in any level and it is unforgivable for some people. But why did you do it? Something motivated you to do it so please do not respond with a 'i dont know'. There is motivation for every action and your outcome results are the consequences.
I think he cheated because he wanted her to break up with him. He might not realize this, it could be subconscious, but he doesn't seem happy with the fact that she hasn't left him.
i think after the kids growing up she would treat me as before...maybe close. but no she just let me work all the time... I was unhappy and felt betrayed myself..I was lonely in my own house..started drinking and this covered it...for years..then I me her a breath of fresh air with only me in her life. it went from there...
thanks now you know
I see. You do know that after birth the majority of women have postnatal depression and research has recently suggested that so do some men. Having children is a very big impact on couples, and i personally think that you guys did not have any 'communication' between you. After a few years couples adjust to each other and they forget that they have to work on the 'spark' it does not just magically happen.
If you guys had kept the relationship 'fresh' but fresh i mean doing the little things you use to do when you met, going on dates, once in a while, you know, recreating the old days here and there would have brought back those feelings and kept the spark fresh. I have only been with my bf for 2 years and that's not even remotely close to 35 years but every week i try and do something spontaneous, go for a walk at night with him, have like a 'movie' day saturdays or whenever we can.
Why don't you try and see if you can do something new, go for lunch, surprise her, buy her flowers, show her something more than just a 'hello' here and there. See if you can kick start something, maybe she is just waiting on you to do something. Even if she acts like she does not care push a little harder, you did cheat so she will always hurt but make her forget about that, do spontaneous things! you are never to old to do anything.
i did it and she won't forgive me or forget it, IIN?
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One question i would like to ask. Why did you cheat? I mean, understading the underlying issues as to why you cheated maybe we can try to formulate or construct an idea as to why she keeps hanging on to it? Yes cheating is awful in any level and it is unforgivable for some people. But why did you do it? Something motivated you to do it so please do not respond with a 'i dont know'. There is motivation for every action and your outcome results are the consequences.
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I think he cheated because he wanted her to break up with him. He might not realize this, it could be subconscious, but he doesn't seem happy with the fact that she hasn't left him.
i think after the kids growing up she would treat me as before...maybe close. but no she just let me work all the time... I was unhappy and felt betrayed myself..I was lonely in my own house..started drinking and this covered it...for years..then I me her a breath of fresh air with only me in her life. it went from there...
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I see. You do know that after birth the majority of women have postnatal depression and research has recently suggested that so do some men. Having children is a very big impact on couples, and i personally think that you guys did not have any 'communication' between you. After a few years couples adjust to each other and they forget that they have to work on the 'spark' it does not just magically happen.
If you guys had kept the relationship 'fresh' but fresh i mean doing the little things you use to do when you met, going on dates, once in a while, you know, recreating the old days here and there would have brought back those feelings and kept the spark fresh. I have only been with my bf for 2 years and that's not even remotely close to 35 years but every week i try and do something spontaneous, go for a walk at night with him, have like a 'movie' day saturdays or whenever we can.
Why don't you try and see if you can do something new, go for lunch, surprise her, buy her flowers, show her something more than just a 'hello' here and there. See if you can kick start something, maybe she is just waiting on you to do something. Even if she acts like she does not care push a little harder, you did cheat so she will always hurt but make her forget about that, do spontaneous things! you are never to old to do anything.
good luck xx