I deeply hate my father. is that normal?

I'm 20 years old and I hate my father deeper and deeper every day. Since I was a kid, he was always talking down the things I liked, insulting me, pretending to be superior over me... He thinks he can do that just because he is the f*cking father, the one who brings most of the money to this f*cking house, because I still need his f*cking favors. As the time goes, I hate him more and more every day. His rude comments about my stuff always leave a bitter taste in my mouth and ruin my day down. I'm disgusted by his presence, I feel calm only when he's not at home. I'm dying for the day when I'll have my own job, my own car and I won't need his f*cking services anymore. On that day, he'll swallow all his words and regret every d*mned moment he insulted me or things I liked. But there are at least 4 years left for me to wait. Is that normal?

Besides wanting to know if it's normal or not, I want to know how can I live in this situation for four years more. The possibility of fixing our relationship is extremely small, because I can't help but detest him, hate him to hell... what can I do, how can I mentally survive living with him for four d*mned years more?

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  • thebone12

    I hated my father then he died and it took years to stop the hate feeling. I hert myself buy hateing him. He lived in my head every were i went. Im happy today and am glad he is not unhappy anymore what a sad man he was.
    Rick

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  • Yumazing

    In that situation, it's absolutely normal. Your dad is a bastard.

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  • The_White_Spirit

    I literally just fought a two foot tall troll 3 minutes ago under a bridge. I won, but I got a nice shiner from the lil bastard

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  • Yes it's totally normal. Although I never lived it, I knew someone who lived your exact situation. (it makes me wonder if you could be her) I was her outlet to vent off and I was there to listen and try to help her through it. I really don't think anything will change with him. The only thing to do is to ignore what he says, it's not true anyways. Stay strong, don't let yourself get pushed down. I know how much you wish the 4 years were done with already but just keep telling yourself you will not endure this all your life. I really wish that you didn't have to endure all of that crap from him and that you could already be out of his house. If you need to vent off frustration, I can be there to listen to you and try to help out. Be strong.

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    • thank you very much for your words ;) well, I'm definitely not "her", because I'm a guy :D actually, I'll probably never be out of this house, because it doesn't belong to my father. It belongs to my mother. But once the house will be mine. Once I have my job and my car, he will get all his insults back. And if he keeps giving me headache, I'll kick him out of the house with no hesitations. Otherwise, trust me, I'm trying to ignore his crap. The problem is that his comments always leave a bitter taste in my mouth and fill me up with bad energy, and my day is ruined down. I don't know how to ignore it. :(

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  • The_White_Spirit

    My dad make me get the biggest boner, and then he jacks me off.

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    • How old are you? At first, I wouldn't get the boner for him, I would tell him "Go get it on your own". Besides that, I would defend, wouldn't let him hit me that easily. And I would report him to the police for physical attack. I seriously advise you to report him

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    • Tehboss

      he does that to me too ;)

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      • flutterhigh

        You guys are fucking awful trolls. Troll harder.

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        • Tehboss

          yes i be fucking with them awfull trols and in acordance to internet rule 14 i just won
          how about you have a nice cup of stfu and go make me a sammich?

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  • Its_Called_Love

    If you're 20, why don't you have a car and job now. Why wait 4 years. Find your own independence and stop bitching. Even if its a part time job and a bus pass your better off. And why wait for someone to give you a house? Work towards your own happiness, don't just sit around hating your father and that you have to live with him.

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  • leicestercam

    Make up with your dad I not have a chance to with mine we
    did not talk 4 over a year and my dad has now past away I I miss him so much

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  • duplonicus

    i hate that fucker to.

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  • supergirlnotreal?

    I feel the same way about my family. My mom is a schizoaffective (schizophrenic and bipolar) & probably obessive compulsive. My dad won't shut the f up & is a homophobe who I recently realized doesn't think for himself. My brother is rehashing the same insults & after I stopped caring about what others think, I grew tired of his insults.

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