I confessed my love to my best friend.

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So after 10 agonizing I finally confessed my love to my best friend. We have known eachother for two years but I have secretly been in love with her since about september. I did everything I could to not tell her. We took a trip out of the country together visited eachother every week despite our two hour driving distances (actually in the fall it was a 6 hour distance)and still after 10 months it was painfully obvious that I was in love with her. All of our mutual friends and not so mutual friends knew it. She knew it, I knew she knew it. But I still couldn't say anything for fear of loosing the best friend I've ever had. Tension began to build and we had a few fights and in the middle of a pretty big fight I blurted out the truth that I was in love her. She rejected me and we didn't talk for two days. After that we continued our friendship and continue to talk everynight on the phone like always. The problem is she knows I love her and she knows that sooner or later I am going to take my shot. We have continued our amazing friendship but I sitll would rather be her boyfriend. Is this healthy? Is it normal to think the fact that she is still my friend and resumed our friendship so quickly is reason enough to take a shot at asking her out?

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  • ValidExcuse
    11 years ago | pl

    The real question is what were you thinking ? secondly if you waited that damn long you can wait a little longer I know from experience she isn't half as nervous as you and is probably just waiting for you to say it again...

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  • andrian007
    13 years ago | pl

    I've had a similar experience before and I'm really sorry to hear that. I don't know if this is the right thing to do or not, but when I experienced this many years back, I was heart-broken as hell and the only way to get her out of my head was to simply stop keeping in touch with her.

    The case here is rather simple: you want more than just friendship and she's not willing to give it. But take note, the circumstances under which you told her was that you guys got into a fight. She may have rejected you simply because she wanted to hurt you real bad to get herself a 1-0 advantage in that fight. So she may not even have meant it.

    If I were you, I would do it again... this time round in a perfectly normal conversation where the two of you are not fighting. Then we shall see how she responds. If she rejects you again, then you will have to make the painful choice: either keep going or give it up and move on.

    If it's of any consolation to you, the physical distance between the two of you will make it somewhat easier to get over her (should you choose to do so). Stop calling her and let her do the calling. Talk to her as normal and after a while, maybe the calls will stop coming and that would be that.

    I know exactly how you feel, my friend. I'm so so sorry to hear about your situation. This will be hard as hell, but you need to give it one more shot and if she still says no, you might have to give it up.

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  • peaceandlove:)
    13 years ago | pl

    Best friends are best friends, not future girlfriends. They same thing happened to me and my best guy friend. Now after I broke up with him we don't talk, and we both wish that we haven't become more than best friends.

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