I cheated, and its tearing me apart

fuck you too slag, no man will ever respect you

It's men like this chick talks about that screw us women up forever and then we are labelled crazy because we can't ever be normal thanks to the crap we had to deal with in the past.

Though I will add to what my alt account (Eva Braun) said: Not only was my ex a selfish asshole but I found out he had been cheating on me well before I ever cheated on him. Still doesn't make things okay but I'm much better off without him and that I'm with someone so wonderful now <3

I agree with most of what was said. I don't think that one thing makes you a bad person ( especially considering how bad you seem to feel now) but I have to disagree with the idea of telling your bf about it. It doesn't serve a purpose. It seems as if your bf is having some other issues and there is no need for you to compound his problems with this useless knowledge.

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Don't tell him that will only hurt him and you will feel even worst..just live it

Honestly I wish she didn't tell anyone and just stopped .

You did what you did and that's that. It was wrong, but I honestly are with you. You were feeling neglected and stuff and sometimes it just happens. I've cheated before but it just happens. So don't worry about it. You'll be ok.

Cheaters are assholes.

It does not make you a bad person. However, the fact is you said you needed someone to confide in, not some to cheat with.

Why is he drinking in the first place? It's "normal" to desire someone/or something else if your bf has problems, but did you try helping him deal with his problems first? It doesn't seem like either you tried, or tried enough, or it just didn't get very far, no matter how hard you tried. Either way, maybe you should have tried knowing him more, and knowing why he was depressed.

Anyway, you should be feeling bad, yes, but that only shows that your feelings are genuine (of course, I'm not going to say you love him ALWAYS, as you have amply shown us here), but it shows that you love him TO A CERTAIN EXTENT. Now, how are you going to show such love? Try talking to him and finding out what's the matter.

Don't worry, the truth is, he will only get hurt if he finds out.

aww honestly its wrong i mean if u love him u wud be honest and never leave him good or bad times for u to go cry and go back to ur ex is wrong im just telling the truth here u shud tell him im sure u wudnt want him to go fuck other ppl and not tell u while it"eats u so much"

YOU NEED TO TELL HIM everything how u feel wht u did it will get rid of ur guilty conscience and make u feel better plus it is only fair to him he has the right to know

i really care about my relationship, and i want to tell him only because we tell each other everything, but i really dont want to lose him. especially not for a person that i have no feelings for.

thanku for the help eva and mechell. fuck you BOYracer

It's not the right thing to do, but sometimes it happens. I guess if you are really that unhappy. I cheated on my ex when we were together but that was after 4 long years of being unhappy and him not willing to change his ways. It's not right and it's not the best way to do things, but I guess in some instances it's normal. You really should have tried talking to him about being unhappy though. At least try to get things better in your relationship before you resorted to cheating.

Also if he has been drinking a lot it sounds like that needs to be addressed. Even I would not put up with someone always drinking alcohol. I had a father like that and I'm not about to deal with that again.

But what u dud is said and done. The least you could do is fess up about it. It may end ur relationship but you owe it to him to tell him. That is, if you really do live him.

I cheated on my ex boyfriend and I didn't do it cause I didn't love him. Sometimes it just happens. If you are sure this is an important relationship then keep it a secret. Don't tell anyone, just forget about it. If you still have feelings for your ex then break up with your boyfriend. Don't drag him through your shit. That's just mean. When you find the right person then you will not cheat on him. You'll always have urges but fight them. Do what's right for u

Stop being a self-centered whore and confess to your partner fucking skank.

Cheating - it's your cross to bear, not his.

He doesn't need to know.

You, however, "need" to tell him. That's your problem; don't make it his. Keep your mouth shut - you have no right to upset him merely to unload your own guilt.

Now, stop feeling guilty. You did something you regret. Learn from it and move on. Also, remember you did it for a reason. He was being a shit husband for a long time. You can't neglect a marriage like that - it's a recipe for disaster. Don't be shocked if your pet runs away because you failed to feed it.

Each partner in an exclusive relationship is responsible for the other's happiness. And neither has a right to deny the other the right to seek happiness if it is not available in the relationship.

Perhaps you would be happier now if you had left him before cheating. Who knows. It doesn't matter - you strayed because you were unhappy. That's not your fault.

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