I care too much

I have always thought of myself as emotionally detached from everything. For 5 years all I could feel was depression, anger, and hate. Now all of a sudden I care so deeply about everything. I made a girl cry not long ago, by saying something I didn't even think as bad, and it hurt me so much that I nearly went into tears, I didn't because I'm a guy and I havn't cried in ages. When I saw a homeless man I was so upset thinking about the sheer numbers of homeless people, I want to help them so much but I know that I can't help them much. I can now barely watch the news because of all the deaths make me feel so bad.

Is this normal?????? I used to be so emotionally detached, if this is normal then it just hit me so suddenly that I had no clue what was going on. Last year I couldn't give a sh*t about anything, now the emotions are over-powering me.

Im a guy too, we are not meant to have much emotions.

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  • i think your normal, its nice for once to see a man actualy has fealing but because yu hated the world so much you just didnt care about anything and it is a shock to suddenly start carin again, you will come around soon :D
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    • Im like that. I suppose its kind of a good thing, if you put it to use. N

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  • You are a teenager & that can be, as someone said, an emotional roller coaster. But that aside, the level of empathy for other people and concern about social injustice you are beginning to care about at a deep level is really very commendable.

    Ignore the shallow and sarcastic responses from the immature boys here. You are growing up to be a fine young man.

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    • Thank you, that does mean a lot to me. I am now not quite so surprised by these emotions and I have been going onto a suicide chat room and I have been trying to help people there with their problems.

      One woman has even said I saved her life...twice, by talking to her and being really kind to her on MSN, and I've only been talking to her for about a week.

      I am kind of scared right now though because she said I was the person that stopped her from committing suicide on 2 separate occasions in about a week, and now I am leaving for 10 days and so if she gets suicidal again I won't be there to talk her out of it, and so I am just so fucking scared right now.

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  • ok to the poster, in all seriousness: what you are experiencing is either the onset of psychosis, or a spiritual awakening similar to that felt by many people at some point in their life.

    Regardless of which one of these things it is, what you should do is act upon these feelings and begin to work (as much as you can in your free time) to alleviate these conditions in the world. That will be a path in your life that could bring great benefit to you and others. Good luck and I hope you act on your impulses

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  • its called empathy.
    also sometimes in the right state of mind your brain won't filter your detections of people around you so you feel what they do uncontrolably
    but once you realise this you can master it.
    its normal to have empathy but you can't let those emotions run your life

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  • I can't say either way if it's normal, however, I have gone through the same thing. out of pure curiosity I would love a response from you on this...

    Do you ever feel like maybe you're a martyr or rather you need to be one. Let bad things happen to you and take on others problems so that maybe they can be happy? Also, do you ever have a sense of arrogance in thinking that you understand the world more than others and therefore "forgive" them for making mistakes, or even conscious choices to do bad things?

    Maybe I'm just weird as hell, (which I admittedly secretly am) but just know that it would mean a great deal to me if you or anyone for that matter honestly responded to this.

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    • Yeah actually, you described how I feel most the time quite well.

      Well I don't need to be a martyr but I deserve to be one.

      Well sometimes I don't forgive them for making mistakes I just get annoyed at them, though I try not to show it...unless I'm online.

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  • Always remember, an unreflected life is not worth living. Embrace your new outlook. If something bothers you about the world, try to change it.

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  • I understand how you feel, even though I'm a girl. It's pretty sad to say that growing up, I had the emotions of rock. I was depressed and angry like you. Seeing pictures of the Holocaust or the aftermath of the atomic bomb in japan, or even columbine didn't do anything for me. 9/11 didn't even phaze me until five years later. I think that's when I started to finally feel sympathy and become empathic. I couldn't stop crying, even though I know of noone who was involved in attacks. Now my heart goes out to the people lost in Hurrican Katherina, the Earthquake in China, and everyone who is suffering or is going to suffer.
    It's normal to have feelings. I'd be more afraid that I didn't have feelings.
    If the feelings become to overwhealming just do a few little things.
    Money's tight in the economy, I know. But maybe whatever change you have lying around could go to the salvation army or the red cross, or to the kid selling lemonade around the corner because he's saving up for a new bike.
    If you have any old clothes that you don't one. Donate it. I'm sure someone out there would be grateful for it.
    Hell, if you have any books you don't want, there are some organization that will take your donated books and will deliver them to children in third world countries. (exclude porn and dirty mag. please :D)
    These are just little things, but for the person you're helping it means a lot.
    It'll make you feel good too. :)

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  • I think it's really sad that some of you guys come on here, and let out all your anger by name calling, trying to humiliate other people, or just by being complete assholes. Do you think you are cool by talking shit and making yourself look like you might have an anger problem?

    If you think you are never going to cry or feel sympathy or guilt as a grown man then you are stupid, every sane human being male or female has moments in their life where they experience loss and grief, or other hard and troubling times in there life. You are not protected from pain just because you have a dick.

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    • i consider the people who come on here just to act like assholes and humiliate other people to be as far from being "men" as possible.

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  • It sounds like you're out of the depression finally.

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  • Don't you EVER let anyone tell you that it's not okay to be emotional. Especially because you're a man. Having emotions and expressing them is a sign of compassion and good heartedness. The only thing I'd be concerned about is becoming unattached again.

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  • How funny because i don't care enough

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  • Being empathetic. That's what it sounds like to me. One time I watched a girl eat a twinkie in line ay the store and it brought a tear to my eye. I'm a Guy. But it was because I just saw a divine beauty behind this woman that I feel was reduced to that moment in time eating a twinkie in line.

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  • I find it cute how you care so much :)

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  • It makes sense to me how it worked out that way that bottling up would cause a hurricane of emotions so suddenly

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  • Hey, guys have feelings too.

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  • I'm the same too. Once I cried because I heard about an old man getting arrested and he looked so sad! And everyone else around me was saying,
    "Why are you so sad about him? What's the big deal? He's evil."
    But in the photo, he just looked so sad and I wanted the police to forgive him and all that. And on Yahoo!, it showed a picture of a professional skiing guy who died in an accident and I had a fit :'(
    So I think it's absolutely normal. You're a good person!

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  • It's not strange for you to become SANE all of a sudden.

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  • This is the common effects of what is known as "Depression" which comes in a multitude of forms,this being one.Just from what you say and the way you worded it would indicate that you are suffering from depression.

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  • its completely normal, i mean we are all just human with emotions therefore we have a heart that beats.

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  • LOL @ flikr

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  • The fact that many men go ape and start fights and act agressively IS a sign that they ARE emotional! however, the only emotion that they show is ANGER. they are hiding other emotions behind that anger!

    You are lucky enough to truly see what those emotions are. I hope that you keep on feeling these feelings. Good luck!

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  • Depression is a form of repressed anger and hate. You have hatred and anger at yourself, you repress this causing the depression, the lack of feeling, and the lack of empathy for others.

    There has been a change in your situation where the genie has come out of the bottle. Now you are feeling things and you "feel" for others.

    Your emotions for others is a projection of your need to be loved. The people you "care" about care nothing for you, they will abuse and use you if you fall into the trap of "caring" for them. You need to redirect your "love" to yourself.

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  • It's normal. It's good that you actually feel sympathy for people.

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  • You grew up.

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  • Lol thats the same as me! except im female. But 'guys arent meant to have emotions'? Thats not true! I mean that means u wouldnt LOVE ur family and gf/bf or watever D:

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  • Women LOVE a man who cares so much about the well being of others. Your normal. HUMANS who don't express these feelings are abnormal. Other men probably feel the same way, but in the role of a man, refuse to let anyone in on their emotional-ness.

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  • wow im surprised to here that an guy can have feeling and emotions!! in my opinion i always thought that guys dont have any type of feeling what so ever, but im happy to here that a guy out there actually cares about making a girl cry! and even crying for a situation like that.TO ME GUYS DONT HAVE AN SWORD OF FEELS!

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  • If you or anyone else are feeling suicidal please, please go to your family Dr or a health care provider right away. That is serious and there is help available.

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  • News these days is sad, so i dont watch it :(

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  • Will you marry me??.lol

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  • Can anyone say emotional rollercoaster with testosterone?

    Just do not kill yourself. You will be fine. There is so much more going on around you than to be sad. If you want to help them, crying isn't gonna accomplish anything. Or are you just feeling sorry for yourself? If you wanted to do something, you would.

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  • im the same way i care about everything and everyone too much and not much about myself and ya i cant watch the news either it sickens and saddens me to see whats going on in the world

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  • HAHAHAHHAHAHA!!!

    "Im a guy too, we are not meant to have much emotions. "

    Good one, but true, look at chimps, there males hold most emotions back at all times.

    But your problem? Hmm, I've had it, I lost it, not sure how, sorry.

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  • well i think its good that you've started caring about these things and it's kind of a myth that men should not be emotional because deep down we still are I think. Im pretty emotionally detached though I just don't care about bad things that are happening at all and I don't care about peoples feelings much either but sometimes I do care a lot for some reason maybe I'm changing like you

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  • Also, sorry for all the typos. :D

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  • i meant to reply at PooLTOY.

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  • and i actually misspoke when i said this was felt by "many people". the reality is that most people never feel this. you may be a chosen person.

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    • I have too many problems to be the chosen one. and that implies that there is some sort of god out there and I am a firm atheist. I would want to act on my feelings but i am still underaged, since I was 11 i hav been in depression, im 16 now, so it is a little difficult.

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      • Hello mate, Yes it is normal for men to care for other people's feelings; Especially after going through some depression.
        There is proof on this list, as other blokes including me are taking the time to reply to you.

        Just reflect and ask yourself, what is your diet like? Your sleeping habits?
        Do you exercise?

        If you dont eat enough, you feel "weaker" and more vulnerable. Your then more likely to be more caring because it's all you feel up to.

        Some spiritual people go on sever diets for this very reason.

        But seriously a lot of people disregard the simplest things like food, and excercise for a lot, but it's often the reason for feeling "not right".

        Your only young, so don't worry too much, as you get older (next few years) things will seem to fall into place.

        You remind me of myself, so by nature your a thinking person, but do yourself a favor and don't forget to care for yourself too.

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      • LOL.

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      • pringletot, i dont think god particularly chooses anyone, you've chosen yourself. thats what i meant.

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        • What do you mean by I chose myself?

          I want to help people, I guess if I turn someones life around then it will make it seem like my life is worth something.

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          • yeah, you've laid out a possible path for yourself. you can see a way to make your life meaningful and rewarding.

            its not about god choosing you. you are chosen to perform good works when and if YOU make that choice. for many, this is not even possible because quite frankly they dont give enough of a shit about anything.

            your caring is a gift to you, if you use it to create meaning and fulfillment in your life.

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            • I used to not care. maybe Ill go back to that eventually, but theres still a number of years before I can do anything significant. But for right now I really want to help people, and I care way too deeply about shit.

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  • soooo fake i know how people like you work and my main emotions is angry at you this post pissed me off

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    • This story is true.

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  • that wasnt actually directed at anyone.

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  • maybe your just on the rag.

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  • Well boy, you have to relax and not frustate put cucumber slices on your eyes and put relaxing music.

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  • Well.. Some times Yew can Change real fast like that.. i mean I do it almost every day Where I got from one extream to the next in 2min flat.. so it's probably normal

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  • i don't have feeling, cause feelings are gay

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