I cant orgasm...

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I really dont know whats happened to me but I cant seem to orgasm with my new boyfriend.

I have come before and I used to come alot with my first boyfriend but since then Im finding it difficult. Even when Im on my own I try and make myself get an orgasm and I cant.

Its starting to affect my relationship because my boyfriend asked me if I have ever come aith him and I just went quiet and couldnt lie and say yes.

So now my boyfriend is on a mission to make me come and its making the situation worse.

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaah. Im so f*cked up and thats just one of my problems. Maybe its because lately I feel down or something.

Is it weird for a 25 year old have trouble with orgasms?

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  • fattymoocow
    13 years ago

    Exercise has helped me a lot!! I had a very hard time as well with orgasms but if you exercise regularly your orgasms are easier to get to and they feel 100x better. I swear on this!! It's better than any drug to help with this. I promise! Plus exercise will help your self esteem and body.. Nothing wrong with looking hotter ;)

    Trust me. Get Ito a regular exercise routine!!! You won't regret it after you get amazing o's!!!

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  • LostReciever
    11 years ago

    Sounds like you're psyching yourself out. That happens to a lot of people with a high need for cognition (like to think a lot). Sometimes what helps is something to overpower the brain when it goes into overdrive. If porn generally works, try setting up a mirror so you can see the action. (God knows girls get the short end of the stick when it comes to... seeing what goes on with the stick ;) )

    The exercise option is also really good. It gets your endorphins flowing and gets you more in tune with your body, which becomes more responsive as you practice exchanging signals with it.

    If this issue continues being a problem for you after adjusting mentally and physically, you might have to accept that you may not be sexually attracted to your new beau, despite your other attractions for him. I can't help you there, sorry. Just know that an overactive mind and an underactive body is a big culprit for basic performance issues like this! Try those first before giving up. At the worst, by taking this advice, you might see something you like, and your health will improve. Win-win!

    Best of luck!

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  • (:sweet:)
    13 years ago

    You really have to get ur mind into it. Sounds weird, but u have to focus on what ur doing and how it feels

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  • WAFFLESQUID
    14 years ago

    For one, tell him you cannot orgasm if you are trying to. Tell him to give you time, don't focus on trying to get one, just enjoy it and if you don't, you don't. If you feel stressed to have one, then you will only chase it away. Are you on medications? That could be a factor. Diet is also another major factor. Hope this helps!

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