Hi there! I seem to have a similar problem. I have a few good female friends, but generally speaking, I have a tough time with girls. I find that they tend to fall into a few categories. There are the girls who are really over-confident to the point of being vain and full of themselves, there are the girls who are really insecure with themselves and need constant approval and/or attention, and then there are those who are pretty level-headed and have a good sense about who they are.
I belong to the last group of girls, but the problem is that not a lot of girls are in that group. I noticed that they tend to pool into the opposite extremes--the first two groups. And because of this, I have hard time finding friends like me. I am not bitchy enough to be friends with the first group of girls (nor would I want to be) and when I do make friends with the second group of girls, the same thing happens to me that you described happening to you--they get jealous and put me down due to their insecurities or they try to be like me...neither trait of which I care for in a good friend.
Unfortunately, a lot of girl have self esteem or confidence issues. And the number of girls who don't are in the minority, which leaves us with a hard time finding each other. I think that may be your problem, too...that you have a hard time finding girls who are just cool, down to earth, confident yet humble about it, like you.
I think you shouldn't let this get you down too much (as frustrating as it may be!). Keep seeking friends who are more like you and don't waste your time with the negative energy some of those other girls bring. If you keep your options open and try to always meet new people, you will find the ones compatible with you over time and, hopefully, nurture them into healthy friendships :) Good luck!
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Hi there! I seem to have a similar problem. I have a few good female friends, but generally speaking, I have a tough time with girls. I find that they tend to fall into a few categories. There are the girls who are really over-confident to the point of being vain and full of themselves, there are the girls who are really insecure with themselves and need constant approval and/or attention, and then there are those who are pretty level-headed and have a good sense about who they are.
I belong to the last group of girls, but the problem is that not a lot of girls are in that group. I noticed that they tend to pool into the opposite extremes--the first two groups. And because of this, I have hard time finding friends like me. I am not bitchy enough to be friends with the first group of girls (nor would I want to be) and when I do make friends with the second group of girls, the same thing happens to me that you described happening to you--they get jealous and put me down due to their insecurities or they try to be like me...neither trait of which I care for in a good friend.
Unfortunately, a lot of girl have self esteem or confidence issues. And the number of girls who don't are in the minority, which leaves us with a hard time finding each other. I think that may be your problem, too...that you have a hard time finding girls who are just cool, down to earth, confident yet humble about it, like you.
I think you shouldn't let this get you down too much (as frustrating as it may be!). Keep seeking friends who are more like you and don't waste your time with the negative energy some of those other girls bring. If you keep your options open and try to always meet new people, you will find the ones compatible with you over time and, hopefully, nurture them into healthy friendships :) Good luck!