It's good you come from a family that's accepting about sexual orientation, so at least you don't have to overcome their hostility, wherever you may fall on the spectrum.
I doubt if you're going to get any profound insights or fantastic advice on this site, but if you can't go into details about "weird stuff" here, where can you? Sometimes, just writing stuff out helps clarify thinking.
You don't say you're a virgin, but you seem to imply that. If that is the case, how much of your uncertainty is simply due to feeling apprehensive about making that leap? A lot of people have their first sexual experience when they're in their teens, and a lot of times it happens mainly due to peer-pressure. I think that can be a negative thing, but once you've had sex, it's easier to be certain about what you like and dislike, what you want more of and what you never want to experience again.
When going through your history, you say, "ever since high school". I'm not clear if that means ever since you finished high school, or ever since you started high school.
If you're older than 18, then I can see how your uncertainty might be creating a nasty circle effect where the more you fret about sex, the more difficult it becomes to take the leap.
If you're still in high school, then what you say suggests you're just a thoughtful teen who wants to be sure of what she wants before becoming intimate with someone.
I guess I could talk about it here but I just feel weird putting it out there (then again, I am anonymous.)
Also yes, I am a virgin. I've never dated or kissed anyone either, and probably won't for a long time. I'm not exactly what people look for in a relationship, physically or personality-wise. Not only that, but I don't think I could ever be that close to anyone (I'm not all that trusting.)
Also sorry for not clarifying, I meant ever since I started high school. In September I will be a senior, actually!
I can't tell if I'm admiring other women or I'm attracted to them..
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It's good you come from a family that's accepting about sexual orientation, so at least you don't have to overcome their hostility, wherever you may fall on the spectrum.
I doubt if you're going to get any profound insights or fantastic advice on this site, but if you can't go into details about "weird stuff" here, where can you? Sometimes, just writing stuff out helps clarify thinking.
You don't say you're a virgin, but you seem to imply that. If that is the case, how much of your uncertainty is simply due to feeling apprehensive about making that leap? A lot of people have their first sexual experience when they're in their teens, and a lot of times it happens mainly due to peer-pressure. I think that can be a negative thing, but once you've had sex, it's easier to be certain about what you like and dislike, what you want more of and what you never want to experience again.
When going through your history, you say, "ever since high school". I'm not clear if that means ever since you finished high school, or ever since you started high school.
If you're older than 18, then I can see how your uncertainty might be creating a nasty circle effect where the more you fret about sex, the more difficult it becomes to take the leap.
If you're still in high school, then what you say suggests you're just a thoughtful teen who wants to be sure of what she wants before becoming intimate with someone.
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I guess I could talk about it here but I just feel weird putting it out there (then again, I am anonymous.)
Also yes, I am a virgin. I've never dated or kissed anyone either, and probably won't for a long time. I'm not exactly what people look for in a relationship, physically or personality-wise. Not only that, but I don't think I could ever be that close to anyone (I'm not all that trusting.)
Also sorry for not clarifying, I meant ever since I started high school. In September I will be a senior, actually!