Thing is I actually love my body I workout like 4 times a week minimum, I'm skinny but muscled only despite that I still don't feel desirable I think it stems from a very odd experience of sex when I was with a girl she kinda didnt do anything she just lay there while I did all the work. It was strange but as a guy I was just happy to be having sex I didnt realise that it would leave me with the subconscious impression that I'm undesirable sexually. You're right its about self confidence but I also struggle with E.D too which doesn't help the situation.. my head is just a little all over the place when it comes to sex and I'm worried that it'll be a deal breaker for any girl I start to date that I have a lot of confusion around sex and find it hard to feel comfortable with it even though I do crave it. I mean who wants to start a relationship by hearing their partner straight up tell them they're bad in bed, idk maybe I'm being too hard on myself I've only had sex a couple times I've no actual proof that I'm bad at sex I think I can learn I just freak out internally at the thought of having to learn because I want to make whatever girl I'm with feel good.
I think you're too hard on yourself as well. I admittedly don't know a lot about sex, but I don't think most people are going to turn down someone of great quality just because they're not the best ever in bed, unless all they are looking for is someone to have casual sex with.
I can't imagine being desired in bed
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Thing is I actually love my body I workout like 4 times a week minimum, I'm skinny but muscled only despite that I still don't feel desirable I think it stems from a very odd experience of sex when I was with a girl she kinda didnt do anything she just lay there while I did all the work. It was strange but as a guy I was just happy to be having sex I didnt realise that it would leave me with the subconscious impression that I'm undesirable sexually. You're right its about self confidence but I also struggle with E.D too which doesn't help the situation.. my head is just a little all over the place when it comes to sex and I'm worried that it'll be a deal breaker for any girl I start to date that I have a lot of confusion around sex and find it hard to feel comfortable with it even though I do crave it. I mean who wants to start a relationship by hearing their partner straight up tell them they're bad in bed, idk maybe I'm being too hard on myself I've only had sex a couple times I've no actual proof that I'm bad at sex I think I can learn I just freak out internally at the thought of having to learn because I want to make whatever girl I'm with feel good.
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I think you're too hard on yourself as well. I admittedly don't know a lot about sex, but I don't think most people are going to turn down someone of great quality just because they're not the best ever in bed, unless all they are looking for is someone to have casual sex with.