I can't handle death at all - please help?

Hey, after reading some of the other comments I feel inclined to state what I think.

1st of all I think we all have some sort of -emotional- tolerance which affects things like how we are affected by direct and indirect death, direct and indirect cruelty (an example would be if you are a vegetarian as although the immortality (if that's even a word) isn't in your face you know its still there).
Having that at an extreme is your case. It sounds like I'm saying it isn't normal but I think it still lies in the boundary of normality as sadness is simply a Human emotion however way it is expressed.

A reason for people numbing up could be the thought of "its truly horrific but expressing my emotions of sadness doesn't change the outcome even though it is intrinsically sad"

As well, you can have something I call logical emotions, something which may or may not affect you directly but it is intrinsically sad/happy. an example would be what psychopaths experience . Or also a normal person can experience emotions from logical emotions but doesn't have to. Eg you're birthday= you should be happy, a death=you should be sad etc etc.

Death is the worst fear out there, and most fears are probably derived from it tbh. The general advice given to someone grieving is grieve however much you need and in whatever way you need as everyone is different. I think that should be applied to your situation even though say someone dies in a film, people should still respect and acknowledge everyone is allowed to deal with it differently.

I don't agree death is a natural part of life at all, infact, I bet people said the exact same thing about slavery until it was abolished. I think we only say that as there is no alternative and we seem to be programmed to think that as a reason for it when I doubt there is any reason at all.

Death isnt like sleeping because lets say I telll my child it is, then they will assosiate sleeping (which in a way is a recovering process as well as many things) with death and will be affraid to go to sleep.
Conclusion:even young children can see there is a differrence

Dont pretend they are in a better place if you don't believe it yourself, as although you may think it will make you happy I guarenty, over the long term you'll be more sad that you have to lie to yourself just to fulfil your own short term need of trying not to be sad.

I used to wake up at one point and start shaking from fear and sadness (not that I ever admitted that to anyone) but then I numbed myself up as people don't class it as normal and it didn't help my situation at all.

So, if you've decided to waste an hour reading my post then my final advice would be that sadness can be expressed however you like but for your own sake and even appearance towards others, and mainly for the fictional characters part , try and manage your emotions and think is it actually sad? Yea the fictional characters meant something to you then and there but it isn't actually real where as the pain around you is.

We have enough things to cry about in life as it is without adding on any more unnecessary grief :P

Hey, I have a similar thing.. Not so much now, but a lot of times I used to cry like crazy when I thought about someone I love dying, mainly my mum.. But gradually, I started to feel that I was grieving for their sadness and loneliness (or my idea of that, I don't know how they really felt). This could also happen with fictional characters. As a child, I would cry sometimes for no apparent reason, which people thought was strange, but it was because the world suddenly seemed too beautiful, and I was afraid the moment would be lost forever, it felt so precious. Sometimes I would get overly attached to some object, which took on a special significance. I don't fully understand it. But I don't think it matters what people think, the idea of 'normal' is only an idea. I'm 38 now, and I don't feel very deeply most of the time. It's as if, when it comes to feelings, I'm either all or nothing, and I would like to even it out. Don't worry, you are who you are and that's who you should be! Have you tried writing or drawing when you feel like that? I find it very helpful to do that. All the best

it sound like sompthing normal but to an exterme but try to get over it and i bet sompting good will come of this some day :)

Not normal my friend.Be at peace with what is the way of nature...you cannot control the way things flow but remember it never hurts to be a part of it. Things like death and birth are the neccessity of this flow of energy and change. In my mythology it is said that the soul sheds a body like we shed clothes so as to move on..and in eventuality meets to the creater the body returns to the earth and its elements and thus the cycle moves on. Thats what my mythology says.

have you had anyone die that was close to you?

ya, thats not normal at all. unless you know someone then the death of an unknown person if it isnt some horrible murder or something of that sort isnt normal.

it's normal to feel bad if a character you liked in a movie died. but you shouldn't feel bad for too long. also, reading obits can upset anyone.

if you get to live, you get to die. that's the deal we all have been dealt.

maybe you haven't lost anyone close to you yet, but once that happens, your current issues will probably settle into a more proper perspective.

hey man death is a natural part of life Death makes angels of us all and gives us wings where we had shoulders smooth as ravens claws,People fear death even more than pain. It's strange that they fear death. Life hurts a lot more than death. At the point of death, the pain is over. Yeah, I guess it is a friend.

im the complete opposite, my really lovely neighbour died the other day, and i just numbed up completely, my auntie died a few years ago and i was numb for that too, so be glad you can grieve, because i cant

Idk if this will help but just think that they r goin to a better place and be happy for them

Not normal at all, I mean I cry at sad movies but thats as far as it goes. Im a very emotional person, but thats really extreme. I think you should see a Dr/shrink about it. Theres no need to be going through all that grieving pain, if you can figure out a way to help it.