I came out to my sister but that "wasn't me". iin?

I am a 23yo male in South Africa.
So in my late teen age I had been involved in intimate but not penetrative sexual encouters with one guy, my friend, and about four and a half years after that, I began getting attracted to men and one other day I got really emotionally broken and ended up telling this problem I had to my sister (whom I very much confide in) and it sounded like I was "coming out"
During that time I was in University and nothing like that had ever happend to me before until those encounters that I somehow don't regret being involved in.
But two years later, now, I fell and still falling deeply in love with my ex girlfriend that I started the dating thing with her but she had broken up with me before and now we got back together again. I think she is in love with me too and we're both mature now.
The problem is that those feelings are now no more and I am seriously into girls now but my sister is the confused one now and I understand her confusion.
Is this Normal? why do I go through these "phases"?.

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Based on 8 votes (5 yes)
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  • driedroses

    It's totally normal. You could be bisexual and attracted to both sexes, or you could have just been experimenting. Either way, many people experience changes in their sexuality over their lifetime and it's nothing to be ashamed of. Explain to your sister that you did enjoy your past encounters with a male, but now you are interested in females and don't want to be labeled "gay" because it's not the truth.

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    • Meezy

      Thank you so much. Ill try to do that. Also, the labelling kills the heaven out of me.

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  • augmentedpotato

    I think that it'd be weird if you DIDN'T go through these stages haha.

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