How could you possibly have affected that? You weren't driving. It wasn't the dream, because dreams don't affect the real world.
It's normal to feel guilt after the death of a loved one, even in situations where you have to do mental contortions to find a way to blame yourself. I'm not sure why this is...maybe taking responsibility, painful as it is, makes us feel in control, and the idea that something like that was completely out of our control and we could lose someone else that way and there's nothing we can do to prevent it is just too scary.
This is something called survivor's guilt. You feel guilty because you lived, but you didn't do anything wrong, and you didn't cause it.
I hope you can manage to let go of your guilt. Maybe you should try going to therapy. You went through something really terrible, and it's going to take a lot of time to heal.
I believe this is my fault
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How could you possibly have affected that? You weren't driving. It wasn't the dream, because dreams don't affect the real world.
It's normal to feel guilt after the death of a loved one, even in situations where you have to do mental contortions to find a way to blame yourself. I'm not sure why this is...maybe taking responsibility, painful as it is, makes us feel in control, and the idea that something like that was completely out of our control and we could lose someone else that way and there's nothing we can do to prevent it is just too scary.
This is something called survivor's guilt. You feel guilty because you lived, but you didn't do anything wrong, and you didn't cause it.
I hope you can manage to let go of your guilt. Maybe you should try going to therapy. You went through something really terrible, and it's going to take a lot of time to heal.