I believe sexual orientation can be altered via thought. iin?

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Let me begin by stating that I am pansexual and I am male. I do acknowledge that this probably makes me biased. This is why I am asking, I want to know if others feel as I feel or if my own personal experiences have skewed my perception of reality. An additional note, I do believe that a substantial majority of humans are born with their orientations.

I believe it is possible, through intellectual thought, for a person to alter their sexual orientation. A small facet, I don't believe a person can lose their biological orientation because it is inherent to their being. One can only add to the genders or sexes they find attractive.

I have been unable to discern whether or not I was born pansexual or if I thought my way in to it. I recall a time when I only found feminine women sexually attractive and the thought of having sex with a man seemed disgusting to me. As time went by, I have discovered that what I find most attractive is intelligence, kindness, and authenticity. I began to see less physically attractive women as more attractive because they possessed the aforementioned attributes. One day I met a guy that was fairly unattractive, he looked like Steven Segal. He was sweet, genuine and was an aspiring biologist. As I got to know him I couldn't help but thinking of him sexually. He became so sexy to me. I even pleasused myself while thinking of him. He was straight so no attempt was made . . . This made me think. Was I born this way or did I rationalize attraction in a way that would make me open to all humans?

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  • daydreamer394
    9 years ago

    I think it's fascinating.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I have no desire to be that open.

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    • ArmusWasTheFirstTroll
      9 years ago

      I can understand not wanting to have sex with a gender you're not currently attracted to,but why would you be unwilling to become attracted to another sex if given the opportunity?

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        I don't want to be attracted to females! End of story.

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        • ArmusWasTheFirstTroll
          9 years ago

          Why?

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          • RoseIsabella
            9 years ago

            I have no interest in lesbianism, hence I have no desire to be attracted to females.

            Rose is my name and men are my game!

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        • VirgilManly
          9 years ago

          But, but what about that time at band camp?

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      • Flc2019
        9 years ago

        bitch shut the fuck up

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  • ScooterNyne
    9 years ago

    This is actually something that has crossed my mind a few times as well. I can say for certain that I am straight and was born so. I've found the female physique attractive and sexually stimulating all of my life. But I have had some past experiences that have had me thinking either what you're saying, or that sexual experimentation was a factor. I essentially offered to suck my best friends dick. I am a male. It never happened but for some reason, perhaps my emotional connection to him, I felt like trying it out. It's something that I think about.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    You guys are idiots. Just because you change ur behavior, it doesn't change who you are on the inside.

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  • Outsider21
    9 years ago

    It is absolutely possible for a person to 'turn' gay or lesbian but why would anyone do it unless they were doing time someplace? Even for someone who was doing time or some such thing, it would probably take quite a while for the average person to decide to 'turn' because the vast majority of people have major psychological blocks against such thoughts and ideas. What would be the reasoning? Gays and lesbians are discriminated against in society in a pretty harsh manner so why would anyone choose to be gay/lesbian. I do definitely think it is fully possible for a straight person to choose to 'turn' gay or lesbian though if they chose to.

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  • JustARandomNerd
    9 years ago

    At puberty it was about equal, then as time went on I found it easier to get off to gay vs str8 porn. I wasn't attracted to males and only found about a couple of girls attractive. Now I'm at college and finding males more attractive.

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    • JustARandomNerd
      9 years ago

      Throughout puberty sexuality is plastic and settles as time goes on.

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  • slings_and_arrows
    9 years ago

    Nope, not something you can rationalize...

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    • ArmusWasTheFirstTroll
      9 years ago

      How would you explain my anecdote? Perhaps I was born this way, though that would then for us to ask, "why did you first find men unattractive? "

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  • bfus
    9 years ago

    I think sexual identity can be altered by thought, but not sexual orientation. However, if someone is repressing feelings of attraction to one gender, they can alter that by rethinking sexuality.

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    • ArmusWasTheFirstTroll
      9 years ago

      I've given this much thought. Perhaps I wasn't really repulsed by men sexually. Perhaps I was just mirroring what a large majority of society believes.

      . . .it's too speculative to be of any real substance, unfortunately.

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    I think human sexuality is incredibly complicated. Scientists are on the verge of isolating specific genetic components that effect sexual orientation at birth, but at the same time, sexuality involves a myriad of psychological and behavioral crap as well...you can't simply boil it down to nature versus nurture.

    For example, I know a woman who identifies as homosexual, who previously identified as heterosexual, but experienced some horrific abuse at the hands if men. Who am I to say that she is any less gay just because she wasn't born that way?

    For me, even, and I'm straight, the physical qualities I've been attracted to in men are literally all over the map. You can't reduce that all down to biology alone...a lot if it has to do with personal and emotional connections. I don't see why the same wouldn't apply to someone with a different sexual orientation.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    9 years ago

    No. I don't think so. Or at least not for everyone.

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  • RealChick
    9 years ago

    Love. It always starts as attraction to something. I personally can't control who I like or why, but I don't try to.
    For me. I think your normal. But others would disagree with me. I think whatever makes you happy you should go for, but I'm more of a free love kinda chick.

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