I believe most relationships have physical attraction from start
Not saying that looks are everything, but when you first meet someone, the way they look plays a huge role in whether you will like them.
It’s like, when you come in late to a job interview, you’re not getting the job even if other stuff went well. I’m not saying nothing else matters, but the only thing they see about you in person, is when you come in late. When you work for 3 months, being late one day is not a big deal at this point because other factors start to matter more.
Same is true in dating if you’re not the person’s type. 95% of the time you’re a “good friend” or “good for someone else” if they don’t find you physically attractive.
This is probably the biggest reason guys get friend-zoned. It’s dangerous to spend a very long time letting yourself go while living your own life. Yes, exploring yourself is important, but you need to make sure your looks represent your personality.