It's human nature to want to believe that we're so special that a person we love can never be happy with another, and it's always a huge blow to get dumped, especially if we've been planning on building a life with the dumper.
If believing in Karma helps you cope with this betrayal, that's fine. Unfortunately, I can't believe in it as a principle because there's too much evidence that some total asshats breeze through life leaving chaos and pain in their wake, but never suffer themselves. Maybe Karma in it's original sense (that we pay for our bad behaviour in our future lives) is true, but believing that requires accepting reincarnation as fact, and lots of people have problems with that.
Jealousy and hate are entirely pointless and negative emotions. They don't disturb the hated person at all, but they can seriously mess up the life of the hater.
Your ex leapt into his new relationship in great haste. It's possible the two of them are soulmates who found each other, at which point fireworks went off and they both instantly understood the whole point of their lives. But they aren't in a movie, so it's more likely that they'll discover things about each other in the near future which mean the relationship fizzles out of crashes in spectacular flames.
Whatever happens to them is irrelevant to you. The only things you should be concerned with are what you can learn from this unpleasant experience and how you can move on with your life. The first step in that is to stop looking at his social media posts. He was an important part of your life once, but now he's just a guy who lives far away with some woman and a cat.
I believe in karma. Normal?
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It's human nature to want to believe that we're so special that a person we love can never be happy with another, and it's always a huge blow to get dumped, especially if we've been planning on building a life with the dumper.
If believing in Karma helps you cope with this betrayal, that's fine. Unfortunately, I can't believe in it as a principle because there's too much evidence that some total asshats breeze through life leaving chaos and pain in their wake, but never suffer themselves. Maybe Karma in it's original sense (that we pay for our bad behaviour in our future lives) is true, but believing that requires accepting reincarnation as fact, and lots of people have problems with that.
Jealousy and hate are entirely pointless and negative emotions. They don't disturb the hated person at all, but they can seriously mess up the life of the hater.
Your ex leapt into his new relationship in great haste. It's possible the two of them are soulmates who found each other, at which point fireworks went off and they both instantly understood the whole point of their lives. But they aren't in a movie, so it's more likely that they'll discover things about each other in the near future which mean the relationship fizzles out of crashes in spectacular flames.
Whatever happens to them is irrelevant to you. The only things you should be concerned with are what you can learn from this unpleasant experience and how you can move on with your life. The first step in that is to stop looking at his social media posts. He was an important part of your life once, but now he's just a guy who lives far away with some woman and a cat.