I am still in love with my ex

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After starting off on the wrong foot, I feel in love with the most amazing man. We had our differences and certain circumstances got in the way we didn’t speak for 6-7 months. Our paths crossed again 6 months ago, all the same feelings returned. He promised me give it time and things can be like they use to be. We could be a family. However he sprung the fact on me he has a GF in another state. He wants to talk to me and see me while he is here, but yet spend time with her on the weekends out of state. He flirts, he messages, he calls me. I finally told him I can’t be the second choice or the back up plan- I also told him if he had to choose between me or her, to not choice me and make life easier on us both. I love him more than anything, and yet I let him go. I cried, and I’ve had the worst day. Will it gets easier?

No the GF in the other state does not know anything about me. As he says she wouldn’t know since she does not live here.

So do I block him? Delete him?

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  • DIO
    4 years ago

    You did the right choice. Yes, it's hard. I know it's hard. It's so hard that you sometimes wish you could die or turn back time, or maybe do something to change the situation. But deep inside of you, you know you can't and that it had to end.
    I know the pain you are feeling right now. It's almost unbearable and whatever people say to you, you can't stop thinking about him. But as hard as it is, humans adapt and we use our suffering to grow better.

    The answer is YES, it will get easier. I promise you.
    At one point you will even look at this and see that you did the right choice, and thinking about it won't even make you suffer anymore.
    It takes time. It can take a lot of time. Months, maybe years. But it does get better. What could help you is to change your mind, go out with friends you trust and when you are ready, meet someone else that deserves you and will make you happy.

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  • Nikclaire
    4 years ago

    It will get easier and luckily for you, you dodged a second relationship with a cheating scumbag.

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    • DIO
      4 years ago

      He's not really "cheating" because he told her the truth from the get go but he totally is an opportunistic scumbag.

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      • Nikclaire
        4 years ago

        I didn't read anything about him telling the GF about O.P. if he did, then no problems. I doubt it tho.

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        • DIO
          4 years ago

          "However he sprung the fact on me he has a GF in another state. He wants to talk to me and see me while he is here, but yet spend time with her on the weekend"

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          • Nikclaire
            4 years ago

            Yeah. What's your point?

            Did he tell the girlfriend in the other state about OP, if not he is cheating.

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            • DIO
              4 years ago

              Oh that's what you meant. I thought you meant her.
              Yes you're right.

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  • olderdude-xx
    4 years ago

    I'd move on and send him a nice text that you don't believe it will work out; then block his number.

    I myself am a polyamourous man who for most of his life has had more than one active "lady" in his life. These usually are multi-year relationships (longest 14 years), and normally only involve 2 ladies (but once 3).

    However, I have always let the Ladies know that up front and let them decide if they were willing to be part of that relationship (most woman will not). The ladies usually met at least once (and sometimes prior to becoming intimate as they wanted confirmation on what type of lady I dated).

    Relationships are built on trust and openness. If the other lady does not know - and have a choice in the matter. How can there be trust? There is no reason to lie about a desire for more than one sexual partner - and no reason not to get consent of all in advance.

    I wish you best with this,

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  • john66669
    4 years ago

    One cool you're into girls and guys and two you'll move on.I still have some feelings to my recent ex but know I'm better without her.She was a liar,cheater and manipulative best advice I can give tell your GF about it and block him don't ruin things with the one you're happy with.

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  • Aethylfritha
    4 years ago

    I honestly have never missed an ex. Maybe im just not normal but i was never that attached to boyfriends.

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  • noneoftheabove
    4 years ago

    He sounds like a using cunt.

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  • Mammal-lover
    4 years ago

    Yea you'll move on. Love is a just a chemical in our head. When you get distance from him itll help you move on and find a guy or gal that is good for you. Things will improve do not worry

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