I am never hit on, does this mean i am ugly?

I am 22 (about to turn 23 in 3 months) and I never get hit on by men (or at least I can't remember the last time). I have never even had a boyfriend before because men never seem interested in me. Does this mean I am ugly?

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Yes 16
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  • geek_god_101

    How about start approaching men. They like that and it can't hurt.

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    • bigbudchonga

      This is actually really good advice, I love it when a girl approaches me, it's nice not to have to put in the effort to chase all the time.

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    • Nickvey

      i always like women approaching me so long as my wife wasnt standing next to me . but , yes approaching single guys is likeable. they may not want to date you but most are horney bastards that will sleep with you and i think thats actually more important than a fee meal and movie of some crappy flowers unless the only reason you date is to prove to other women you ave super vagina powers that make men spend money on them.

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  • CDmale4fem

    I would ask if your attire is somewhat up to date, do you have hairstyle that is recent ? Or are your things outdated ? Now another thing, men hear women say they like a man with confidence. The same holds true that men like a woman confident, flurty, sense of humor, not afraid to laugh and have fun. How you interact with makes can also tell them a lot about if you are or could be a fun young woman to hang around with. As for "ugly" - if you plant that In your head then the thoughts of that will haunt your sub conscience and you will dwell on that over and over. Negativity breeds Negativity. Surround yourself with positive thoughts and people and situations.

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  • Nickvey

    men your age dont want to date, they are trying to get college degrees or are working long hours at crappy jobs and have no money to buy your food , movies and whatever the fuck you need men for. they still like to fuck , they are not gay, they just dont want to date you. so you are in a age window thats not getting hit on. i suggest looking at the age 40 and up crowd . they found themselves singe via divorce and dont have child custody and might like raising another daughter. of course they are paying alimony and child support but they still get by because they are top wage earners, and dating 22 two year olds can be had for a dinner and a movie.

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    • curious-bunny

      Yea sounds pretty accurate. I know no one ever hit on me either, well some did but they were just looking for sex and that doesn't count in my book, but yea men around 40 are perfect, yes there is some challenges to it and concerns cause I mean he's reaching the age were men start falling apart wich really blows. It's funny my bf was talking about how he needs to go in and get his prostate checked as he is at that age and it really puts into perspective that he's so much older than me

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      • Nickvey

        I concur with what you said as being truthful as well. although i got a kidney stone at age 35 and the urologist could not resist making a saturday morning appointment with no other staff present and couldnt resist the temptation to sticking his lubed finger in my shithole to check my prostate. It just came together and clicked last week that i was probably molested by a gay man . im not even upset about it. hell if i could go back in time i probably would have say hey doc since you already got me lubed up and all let's see if you can get your cock in there.

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        • curious-bunny

          That must have been very awkward, haha that woulda been funny

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  • jack_shephard

    I think most of the men hit on the women they find sexy or think that she won't mind it.
    So no you're not ugly, its probably coz the other reason.

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  • LOLFanProductions

    Some men find that making the first move is intimating for them. Especially if they want to leave a good first impression. Love comes when you least expect it. Try to be optimistic about it because you may never know.

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  • _Mehhhh_

    Possibly, not necessarily.

    It can be more about what you exude than about your looks. You might be quite attractive, but if you exude an aloof attitude like you're not interested in dating, or a severe lack of confidence, that can turn men away.

    But even if it is looks? You're young and you can work on it. Take care of your skin and work out, eat well, put a cute dress on, hair done, not too much fakery, and exuding confidence all at once. The guys will notice.

    You have to exude what you want to attract. Have your shit together and be confident, you will get dates.

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  • bigbudchonga

    You could just look like you might be a feminist, it's not worth catching a sexual assault charge so men will leave you alone if that's the case.

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    • Nickvey

      ture if you look and dress the role of feminist you dont have a snowball's chance in hell of being asked out on a date. im not saying you need to wear makeup either. but all men have gaydar and we all can smell a feminazi woman a mile away.

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  • Nickvey

    you may be a hot smoking super fox that most men feel they have no chance with , i snagged one as a girl friend for four years. I was her coat hanger. a coat hanger is a guy that dresses nice and women wear on their shoulder like accessory like an expensive purse. Basically women use them like a coat hangar to attract rich men and to be seen in public with them but the women has no intention of marrying the guy even if he was the last guy on earth. Its fun pumping up these future cat ladies with cum because they never want to marry you. the sex is smoking hot these skinny bitches all need anal sex to get off for some reason. after forty they all settle down with a nice cat because Mister rich never came along and married them . you see them on facebook , they are always the doting aunt to someone. single 60 years old loves cats .

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  • Would you like to go out with me?

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  • PaleoArtist

    You might be so hot that guys think your above them, or out of their class in which case creepy guys will start hitting on you - don’t settle.

    You could join a club, hobby group, take free classes in something you find interesting and along the way who knows.

    Try helping out at a church (yes, I’m a Rev. lol) but a lot of them have Singles Groups where they go and have no pressure fun in safe environments for all. Like bowling, paintball etc.

    You could get a used motorcycle and join a riding club, in which case it wouldn’t matter if you were fat or ugly, because unless a guy is really shallow he won’t care if you like riding, going out and having fun. Just don’t ask a biker to sell their bike or you’ll be curbed.

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  • lordofopinions

    Someone said approach the guy. It is well into the millenia and is quite acceptable. In fact guys love it (I do) when a woman makes the first move.

    Also be sure you are dressed in appropriate colors for the season. Dress a little saucy but not slutty. Smile! If you don't smile people think you want to be left alone. These are things I look for in a woman if I want to get to know her.

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  • TerriAngel

    I know of 2 types that dont get hit on.
    Fat girls.
    butch looking girls.
    ( even if not butch )
    Ask yourself if you fit into either catagory.

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  • Unimportant

    Men are not supposed to hit on women anymore because it's racist or something, contemporary society says.

    In all seriousness, though: uglyness is only one of thousands of possible reasons, only a marginal number of which you can influence.

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    • Nickvey

      asking a woman out violates her safe space and imposes unwarranted gender assignment. its not racism.

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      • Unimportant

        What if my gender identity is ethnically/racially based, though?

        "I may look like a woman to you, but actually I am Hispanic!"

        Then imposing an unwarranted gender assignment is a direct attack on my gender, which is my race, which makes it racist.
        Check and mate, sanity.

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  • Mark92

    Nah, i am sure you are okay, try asking out some guys you like, am sure you would find someone eventually, wish you all the best!

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    • Nickvey

      dont waste time on losers , make sure he has an apartment job and car , dont ask for a date , just ask if he needs some company at his place , and all that implies. you could look like frankenstein and you would get an invite to my place.

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  • Ummitsstillme

    There are many attributes that come into play when you determine attraction to men. It isn't just a symmetrical face and healthy body. You could be twitchy, or walk funny, or have frumpy clothes/hair. If you're insecure and don't maintain eye contact or are timid and can't hold a conversation; those sort of things can reduce your attractiveness.

    Lucky for you style and behavior can be changed relatively easily. And lucky for you, men aren't as picky as women. Maybe do something different with your hair, buy a new outfit or two if you think your style could use some updating. Do you have a female or gay guy friend to go shopping with? Do you wear makeup? Maybe take a class if you're not so good at it. Do you wear heals? Making changes to your appearance can give you confidence that will change your behavior and make you come across as more sexy.

    Put yourself out there. Maybe join an online dating site, or don't be afraid to go out to eat by yourself, especially a restaurant that serves food at a bar. Strike up a conversation with a stranger anywhere. It's always good practice to talk to men even if nothing else comes out of it. Try not to take rejection personally. It just means you and that person weren't right for eachother at that point in time. It is not a reflection on your attractiveness or value. Good luck.

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  • Tealights

    If you're female, it's all about appearances if you want to get cat-called; this could include a variety of things, but the most important is whether you look "easy," or not. Remember, a lot of men dislike rejection, so if you look like a sure thing (revealing clothes, flirting, etc), then they will most likely cat-call.

    However, you shouldn't determine your worth based on the opinion of others.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Ugh, cat calls are awful. Getting hit on all the time is overrated. I only want attention from guys I'm interested in to tell you the truth.

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  • Nickvey

    you might be ugly , or you got a shitty attitude, or you are not approachable , or lopside tittys , big feet , you might smell, see you might look fine. So im voting No.

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    • jack_shephard

      Yup! Now read your comment too. You probably crushed that girl but it's not any of my business so...

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