I am going throught fear

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I am going through not going outside I am 30 yrs old am not married or have kids I don't go outside I live with my mom I just feel comfortable inside the house I use to have a boyfriend in I felt comfortable around him so I when out with him but that was rare people always looking at me in I just don't like it I feel happy just being with God in reading the bible my boyfriend don't know nothing about this in I been with him for 8 years I hid it so well but I just don't care about boys or nothing like that I just want to get over this I been in the house for months at a time I will go out to the doctor in I work from home so I really don't have to leave but I do want to have a life to meet my husband in have kids I will just keep praying in believing do anybody have any advice for me

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  • Jweezee
    5 years ago

    The best advice I can give is to see a psychiatrist. If you happen to be suffering from anxiety, depression, or another condition they'll be able to diagnose and treat you.

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    • LornaMae
      5 years ago

      You were really nice there... I understood nothing but I support your advice.

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      • Ellenna
        5 years ago

        That was a very clear post, if you understood nothing it really is time you sought help: not being nasty, but if you want this to change you have to take the first step yourself, even if it's just to call a helpline and get support to build up some courage to get appropriate help.

        If you're seeing a doctor, have you discussed this with her/him? That could be a good start, but you have to make that start yourself or you'll be in the same situation to the end of your life and it doesn't sound as if you want that.

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        • LornaMae
          5 years ago

          Wut? Original post was clear? Sorry, but I'm not gonna call a helpline to understand it.

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          • Ellenna
            5 years ago

            Please read my post again: I didn't say anything about calling a helpline to understand Jweezee's post, I suggested calling a helpline for support to get yourself appropriate help.

            And Jweezee's post was brief and perfectly clear: it advises you to see a psychiatrist.

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            • LornaMae
              5 years ago

              I'm torn between thinking you're assuming this post is mine or just flat out saying I have mental issues gratuitously...

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    I personally think you are depressed, anxious and grieving the loss of the relationship. I think you need to make an effort to try to get out, and participate in the world more. If you like reading the Bible then try to go church, and or join a Bible study. Look for some activities in which to participate in your off hours. Maybe take a yoga class, an art class or even join a gym. If you have a dog a great activity in which to participate with your dog would be obedience classes.

    I hope my suggestions help! If you get the chance please say a little prayer for me, I am struggling with something not dissimilar, girlfriend. 😉

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  • Tammieg12
    5 years ago

    Thankyou guys I am taking your advice thankyou God bless you all

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    • factcheck
      5 years ago

      We've all been there or know someone who has. You can get the help you need. You're going to be just fine.

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  • AceWhitehouse
    5 years ago

    sounds like social anxiety.. maybe try going to church and you'll find a man that fits you there because you seem pretty in tune with your spirituality and relationship with God..

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  • cipro
    5 years ago

    Take antidepressants. Take benzos. Take beta blockers.

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  • bigbudchonga
    5 years ago

    You sound like a neet. I'm pretty reclusive myself. You've got to push yourself and go outside. Look up Japanese neets, I think they say that once they've been a neet for 10 years it's really difficult to change them, and after they've done it for like 20 years it's pretty much impossible to get them out of the lifestyle.

    Also on a side note, if you want kids and you're not going outside/ don't get a partner by the time you 30's are ending then I would go to the sperm bank. I think fertility really goes after the late 30's for women.

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    • LornaMae
      5 years ago

      Oh, wow, NEET is a whole new world to me. Thanks for mentioning it.

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      • bigbudchonga
        5 years ago

        Ahha you're welcome. There's a sizable proportion of them in the Japanese populace.

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