I am flirting with a woman i am not interested in.

I am a 26 year old guy, and I have a female friend who is in her late 30's, with two children. She, at one point, expressed interest in me, but I turned her down because I didn't think the relationship would work (and I really had no interest). Recently I have been flirting with her, and she's now flirting with me. I really am not interested in a relationship, but I feel like I can't help myself. I haven't been in a relationship in three years, and that includes "physical escapades". I can't just stop because she's overly emotional. Is it normal to flirt with someone and not have any interest?

Is It Normal?
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  • "because she's overly emotional" - That should be a red flag right there. If you just want her for sex you need to tell her that. Otherwise this is a cat and mouse game that doesn't need to happen.

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  • Aha, it's totally normal :)
    You're just a flirt. I'm one too. I flirt for fun, not because I express interest.
    But.. don't lead her on.
    Best wishes <3

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  • Yeah, its normal to flirt with someone who expresses interest because you feel good. It makes you feel like you're sexy. The same as girls who have boyfriends but still flirt with guys when they go to the bars with friends. No intentions of sleeping with them, the fact other people still want them is a sexual charge.

    HOWEVER, don't sleep with her. You have to understand flirting can be dangerous if she's too vested. Its one thing to casually flirt to bolster an ego. Another to use a woman who thinks your interested. Don't be a dick.

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  • So you are flirting with her because you want to use her for sex even though you don't want a relationship. That's cruel, and especially callous since she has kids. Go to Craigslist and hire a hooker! There are some high class call girls online who will even work with you on a regular basis. It's better to pay for it than to use and abuse people and their kids who are simply looking for love. If you are only interested in sex hire a hooker, if you want a relationship find a real girlfriend, but leave this woman alone.

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  • I think you need to be straight with her. What is she looking for? It may well be a very casual relationship. But if it is more, (especially since she has children & may likely be looking for something with more substance) then she needs to know you are not interested.

    I agree with Galaxy ^^^ on the cat & mouse game here. It could be what upsets her. Don't be a cad, even though you may not intend to be that way.

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  • Life is basically boring and so we do shit to ke it interesting...but you do have to watch starting something you cant finish...if you fuck with her head it might end with some bad shit

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  • Oh don't tease her.

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  • Don't do that bro.. not cool

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  • people just flirt for fun a lot of times. I would flirt with one of my friends but I wasn't interested in him sexually or relationship wise. it's just kind of fun and funny, and a natural part of being a human. as long as she knows it's just for fun (make sure she knows) then there is nothing wrong with her. just don't try to lead her on. best of luck!

    p.s. don't use her for sex. i'm not sure if that's what you were implying or not. if you want sex for a hook-up website.

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  • don't lead her on let her know- you'r eafraid you'll upset her but if you carry on - one thing might lead to another and yu'll have to say something down the road which will be worse for her.. cool it off now

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  • i often find myself flirting with people that im not intrested in. most of the time i dont even realise i'm doing it until someone points it out to me, and even then i cant stop myself from doing it. it still doesnt mean im interested. so yes, i think your situation is quite normal!

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