I have no advice but I want to say that your experience must be awful. I hate patronising comments, myself - normally it happens when I enter a new work environment and people (especially male colleagues) treat me like a complete ignoramus in the field. But you seem to get it on another level. What is wrong about the way she is talking to you is simply that she is praising you like a child at all - whether it's triggering or not. A 30-year-old is not a child. You have acquired some life experience and skills for your 30 years on this earth.
For the time being that's all I can offer. You might be able to have a candid conversation with this person, depending on her character, and let her know that she is doing it. You'd need to do it gently, and in the spirit of making change happen so that things can get better, rather than in the heat of the moment when you can't take it anymore and you are furious. People aren't always aware of how they come across. My students often surprise me when they ape my mannerisms and little phrases that I don't know I have/use. Perhaps things will change when this person becomes aware of what she is doing, and how it is affecting you.
I am fed up with being praised like a child.
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Ignore Tommy.
I have no advice but I want to say that your experience must be awful. I hate patronising comments, myself - normally it happens when I enter a new work environment and people (especially male colleagues) treat me like a complete ignoramus in the field. But you seem to get it on another level. What is wrong about the way she is talking to you is simply that she is praising you like a child at all - whether it's triggering or not. A 30-year-old is not a child. You have acquired some life experience and skills for your 30 years on this earth.
For the time being that's all I can offer. You might be able to have a candid conversation with this person, depending on her character, and let her know that she is doing it. You'd need to do it gently, and in the spirit of making change happen so that things can get better, rather than in the heat of the moment when you can't take it anymore and you are furious. People aren't always aware of how they come across. My students often surprise me when they ape my mannerisms and little phrases that I don't know I have/use. Perhaps things will change when this person becomes aware of what she is doing, and how it is affecting you.