What does your girlfriend think about how you should handle the situation? She's known your mother for a lot longer than you, so she should have some ideas on the best way to deal with this.
Lots of people who find an older man with a younger woman perfectly acceptable have problems with the reverse. That's irrational, but it's a fact, and so it won't be just your mother's response that might cause problems for you two.
But at twenty-four, you're not a kid anymore, and you have the right to be with whomever you want. Your mother's main concern should be that you're in a positive, loving relationship with a good person who truly cares about you. So why should your mother be upset if you're with someone she knows very well and who she apparently likes well enough to have stayed friends with for forty years or so?
I suppose your mother might have problems getting her head around the idea just because it's something she never even considered possible. Given the general paranoia these days about child sexual abuse, she might also immediately wonder if something inappropriate happened between you and your girlfriend when you were much younger and she was babysitting you. Or your mother might just have problems due to knowing that there's zero chance she's going to be the grandmother of your child if you stay with your girlfriend.
Have you actually laid your cards on the table with your girlfriend? Does she understand how serious you are about your relationship? Or is it possible that she assumes there's no chance it will be long-term because you'll soon want to move on to someone closer to your own age?
We actually talked about that today and she kinda said what you said.
She dosent mind if we tell my mother about it but apart of me isn't sure about it at least not right away.
She is also just as serious about our relationship as I am so that's not an issue I really do love her.
To be truthful I never thought that we would end up dating either which is why I think my mother might have a issue.
Also why would it be a zero chance of grandchildren(adoption is a option if that's a issue) we aren't really talking about kids or anything but I could see how that would bother my mother.
I am dating my moms childhood friend
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What does your girlfriend think about how you should handle the situation? She's known your mother for a lot longer than you, so she should have some ideas on the best way to deal with this.
Lots of people who find an older man with a younger woman perfectly acceptable have problems with the reverse. That's irrational, but it's a fact, and so it won't be just your mother's response that might cause problems for you two.
But at twenty-four, you're not a kid anymore, and you have the right to be with whomever you want. Your mother's main concern should be that you're in a positive, loving relationship with a good person who truly cares about you. So why should your mother be upset if you're with someone she knows very well and who she apparently likes well enough to have stayed friends with for forty years or so?
I suppose your mother might have problems getting her head around the idea just because it's something she never even considered possible. Given the general paranoia these days about child sexual abuse, she might also immediately wonder if something inappropriate happened between you and your girlfriend when you were much younger and she was babysitting you. Or your mother might just have problems due to knowing that there's zero chance she's going to be the grandmother of your child if you stay with your girlfriend.
Have you actually laid your cards on the table with your girlfriend? Does she understand how serious you are about your relationship? Or is it possible that she assumes there's no chance it will be long-term because you'll soon want to move on to someone closer to your own age?
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We actually talked about that today and she kinda said what you said.
She dosent mind if we tell my mother about it but apart of me isn't sure about it at least not right away.
She is also just as serious about our relationship as I am so that's not an issue I really do love her.
To be truthful I never thought that we would end up dating either which is why I think my mother might have a issue.
Also why would it be a zero chance of grandchildren(adoption is a option if that's a issue) we aren't really talking about kids or anything but I could see how that would bother my mother.