I am 31 years old and still a virgin- is this normal?

I guess if you classify laziness as a real problem

You think we should all work and support people like you no one likes to work but we do it and to think are money goes to people who like to sit around all day pathetic

It's not normal, but by no means is it *bad.* You are infinitely more responsible than most adults where I live.

In any case, I didn't lose my virginity until I was 25, which is probably not normal; but I'm fairly content with my slow love life.

Dude, u don't know what you're talking about. Go bark up another tree. It's as if you're saying we choose this, people have real problems- that's WHY they get social security.

well, there's people who have died a virgin just shows your innocent. i'm a virgin and i'm 17 most girls my age have already lost it. but i haven't and i'm planning on saving it for the right guy. but i still don't see me having sex right now, but i think it is normal since you were born a virgin why not stay a virgin but if yu want to lose it you can just make sure she isn't some random girl.. lol i think it's normal on my opinion sex is the last thing that comes in mind for me.

it's pretty simple u need to change all the things that you are so depressed about..life is what u make of it..it will not change unless you make it change....

@wibble shut up.
its okay if your a virgin at 31, i know this wont help the situation but i lost my virginity when i was 14! and i really wish i didnt. your just waiting for that special someone to come along i guess :) which is a good thing.

it is ok gurl you will find that speacil one to give it up to so dont worry it will happen

oh and the social security, though pennies really ( its rediculous) is of course better than nothing.
i really don't like to work ( god, i know that sounds bad) but i like being able to do whatever i like at any hour.....hence the laziness and undriven comment.....

i want to thank you all for your answers. they really are good ones.
for anotheruser- i suffered from clinical depression, but the "diagnosis" kept changing over the years, so i got labled with few more names (or whatever), but it doesn't matter cause i don't define myself these things. its all bullshit, i'm as normal as anyone else, just have to get on the right path, just find happiness which apparently isn't too easy, since i haven't felt it in i don't know how long......
its really very complicated i think.....
here i go rambling again.
its just that its hard for me to find the right words to explain it the best way.
but really, your answer and the others were very good, thank you.

the answer will not fall in your lap. you need to get out of the house and start doing things. if you go somewhere to walk or exercise you will meet people. as for the virgin part, there is nothing wrong with that. the question is this. is there something wrong that you may be to embarrassed to tell even on here? (such as a disability) usually you don't get SSI just because you want it. I think there may be more here than you tell. I am not trying to bash you or make fun of you. I just hope that if there is some reason for all of this that you can look past it long enough to get back to the size you want to be. all these issues you have are probably the reason you feel like you do. good luck to you all these answers are good answers please do something now because life is short its not fair and you have to make yourself happy

I've never liked being judgmental, but in your case, I don't even know where to start. I think you know for yourself what you need to do now. It's not much of a big deal being a virgin at the age of 31, I'm sure there are others who are in the same situation, but being unemployed and relying purely on social security can only pull down your feeling of self-worth. You need to go out there and get a job, that's the first thing. This will make you feel better contributing something to society and more confident about yourself. When the time comes, your man will come along.

One other thing to help you appreciate the situation better is to simply reverse the situation. If you ever meet a male version of yourself, unemployed for a long time, lazy and not driven, would you want to be with him?

I can understand how you would think that still being a virgin at 31 is a handicap. If your main concern is to have sex, there are lots of forum on the internet about virgins. There are also many adult friends sites where you could meet people just for sex. Of course, you need to be careful when you meet people in real life. There are also sites for men who are looking for larger women. That being said, that would only take care of your sexual problem. Don%%u2019t expect to meet someone for a serious and meaningful relationship. I was a late bloomer and had sex for the first time in my 20s. I know how you feel.

But it seems to me that there%%u2019s a lot of things in your life that cause you pain. You say you%%u2019re lazy and that you live on social security. You also say you weigh 290 pounds. My question is, are you happy with this? If you are, then by all means go on living your life the way you see fit. But if you%%u2019re not happy, maybe now is a good time to turn things around. It%%u2019s not easy to lose weight when you don%%u2019t ever have to leave the house to go to work. Are you depressed in any ways? Have you always been like that? Do you have many friends? Do you read or keep yourself informed?

In the end, I believe that to be attractive, you need to feel good in your own skin, regardless of your weight or working situation. But, if to achieve that you need to look for a job, then do it.

Loose weight and find a hobby. Once you find that hobby, maybe youll be interested in doing it and making money from it. Theres a job right there. And Interests. And plus, if you loose weight, youll be even more attractive. Try this.