It's possible that not even the delicious D***** can ever _make_ you have an orgasm, especially if all he's doing is penis in vagina sex.
Surveys have found that only around a fifth of women are capable of reaching orgasm via solely vaginal intercourse. For the majority of women, the clitoris is just a little too far from the vagina to be consistently stimulated for long enough for an orgasm to occur.
The fact that you can reach an orgasm when flying solo is a good start - some women never learn the knack of doing even that. Think about how long it takes you to reach an orgasm when you're doing it yourself compared to how long D***** is doing his thing. I wouldn't be surprised if you find that he's over and done with it much faster. It's normal for women to take anything up to 20 minutes to get to orgasm from a lukewarm start, while men can make that journey in less than five minutes (sometimes a lot less).
It's a truism that, if you're convinced you suck at anything, then it's very likely that you're going to suck at it. It may be because you truly do suck, but it's possible it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Some people are very good at self-sabotaging.
Also, if you're so in your own head when you're having sex that you're worried about how you look and how you sound and if you're doing the right thing, you're never going to be able to be fully in the moment and experience. Sex isn't about thinking; it's about experiencing what's happening to your body and how the other person is responding.
Porn stars notwithstanding, most of us look and sound pretty fucking weird when we're totally into sex, and if it's as smoothly choreographed as a porn video, then it's probably pretty damn boring sex.
Have you considered the possibility that, no matter how hot you think D***** is, it's entirely possible that he's simply a crap lover? Just because someone is gorgeous, that does not mean they're going to be great in the sack.
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It's possible that not even the delicious D***** can ever _make_ you have an orgasm, especially if all he's doing is penis in vagina sex.
Surveys have found that only around a fifth of women are capable of reaching orgasm via solely vaginal intercourse. For the majority of women, the clitoris is just a little too far from the vagina to be consistently stimulated for long enough for an orgasm to occur.
The fact that you can reach an orgasm when flying solo is a good start - some women never learn the knack of doing even that. Think about how long it takes you to reach an orgasm when you're doing it yourself compared to how long D***** is doing his thing. I wouldn't be surprised if you find that he's over and done with it much faster. It's normal for women to take anything up to 20 minutes to get to orgasm from a lukewarm start, while men can make that journey in less than five minutes (sometimes a lot less).
It's a truism that, if you're convinced you suck at anything, then it's very likely that you're going to suck at it. It may be because you truly do suck, but it's possible it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Some people are very good at self-sabotaging.
Also, if you're so in your own head when you're having sex that you're worried about how you look and how you sound and if you're doing the right thing, you're never going to be able to be fully in the moment and experience. Sex isn't about thinking; it's about experiencing what's happening to your body and how the other person is responding.
Porn stars notwithstanding, most of us look and sound pretty fucking weird when we're totally into sex, and if it's as smoothly choreographed as a porn video, then it's probably pretty damn boring sex.
Have you considered the possibility that, no matter how hot you think D***** is, it's entirely possible that he's simply a crap lover? Just because someone is gorgeous, that does not mean they're going to be great in the sack.