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i want to be dumb and oblivious i hate being aware of what the world actually is i just want to live in a bubble where i dont think about the world's existence or my own i obsess over time and space and everything seems pretty much pointless
Make your life difficult.
Return to having to feel the struggles of survival, homestead, be homeless for a while, long term camping, set a goal of self sufficiency.
Can’t worry about your feelings on an empty stomach!
I can't tell if you're joking or not. I mean, you're not wrong. The starving children in Africa don't care about gender politics or any of that crap.
I’m being serious. Going rouge can be very therapeutic, and if someone believes that their life doesn’t have enough things to keep them there, then what do they have to lose?
It’s a last ditch effort for sure. But you either learn to love yourself enough to go through the hardships to keep yourself alive and become your own hero,
or you die.
You don’t know yourself until you’ve starved or froze
Oh honey child, you got fat old existential crisis.
Quick, tell me three things you care about. Lay it on me, I'm listening...
Life just is, period. There is no objective point or purpose but you have 3 choices - find/make your own purpose, hop on the religious bandwagon and follow what some other person tells you is your purpose or flounder through life with no purpose feeling confused and depressed.
Honestly it happens to everyone who are ovservent even if very little. Everything seems and is actually meaningless...we go in a state of numbness for sometimes and u know the drill
what u could do is try to get back to the things which once made u think life is even worth living or which made u exuberantly for tomorrow... Various activities , living with friends or just anything which u engage your soul with...people say just get under a lot of work and be always distracted which is kinda effective but you would just be living ignoring the facts ... Instead embrace those facts and just try do be at peace with the world around and yourself.... meditation , peaceful songs etc....do nostagic stuff anand yolo the fuck out.
This looks like anxiety. The best possible thing you can do is to develope indifference and maybe a little bit of apathy. If as you said, things seem pointless, then do not stress about them. (i know and undersand that this is easier said than done. However it is the objective you have to work towards to)
I resonate with your initial post. I miss being young, and not knowing about the bad things going on in the world. I wish every little thing didn't bother me so much. I miss being oblivious to things.
The problem for me is that I haven’t been oblivious since I was 16. I’m 19 now and I feel like my life is going to be gone in a second. I know that when I’m 70 years old that it will feel like I was just 19 years old and the thought is just depressing to me. I know too much about science and space to believe in God by know, but I’m actually trying to because I know that there is so much comfort in believing that life isn’t just about your time on earth. Oh, well.
Live in the moment...this moment is all there is...do u wanna waste your time thinking about the stupid existence or do u want to make something out of it...get attached back to the beauty of nature and humanity and the other things won't bother you
Honestly just try to see beauty in miniature things coz u can have all the knowledge in the world and still be the unhappiest person alive...tap back into the innocent eyesight of the little girl you were and finding happiness in little things (, hopefully u did tht...if not..it is never too late)
I never drink or do drugs, it’s been 3 months since I’ve even tasted alcohol. I work everyday and I have lots of friends. I just feel that life is so useless because I know I’m gonna die anyways and all memory of me will be lost short after my death. Even though I have a big, nice family and lots of friends, I just feel like nothing really matters cause it will all be gone.
Life isn't useless if you actually live it while you have it. There must be some things in life you enjoy: focus on them and also find some new activities you enjoy and stop dwelling pointlessly on what is the lot of all humans. To state the blatant obvious, we're born, we live and then we die: we only have control over how we deal with the years in between.
wow jeez, this sounds really bad. Have you tried exercising to help your mood?
OP doesn't sound to me as if he has a mental illness, but he'll probably develop at least one if he follows your advice.
I’m a “she” btw, but yeah I don’t think I’m going to a shrink any time soon. I want other options to deal with these thoughts with first, but thanks.
Sorry, I'm usually careful about gender pronouns!
Can I suggest you get hold of a book called "Man's (for which read Woman and Man's!) Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl - if your local library or school library doesn't have it, they should.
It's got me through some very bad times: I figure if a man who survived Nazi death camps and lost his immediate family there can find a meaning in life, anyone can.
There's also the easy mental practice of making a list, either in your head or better still, in writing so you can refer to it later, of the things you feel gratitude for: roof over your head, food, clean water, whatever.
Good luck! I'm one of the oldies you fear to be (73 in 3 days) and I can recommend getting your head together about this before you get much older, then you will have time to find things you enjoy in life.
I'm surprised you're feeling all this if you believe in god (I don't, by the way): surely the whole point of such belief systems is to give meaning to life?
Thank you for the tip! I’ve actually gotten so much better lately. I’m living with some girls in another country that I didn’t know before we moved in together. (It’s like a work&travel thing) I find people and psychology so interesting! Human interaction and how people react differently to situations is really fascinating to me. I’ve already gotten really close to the girls and talked lots about existential crisis, bad family situations and so on.
So if anyone is wondering, I’n actually kinda happy again! If the person who’s reading this is feeling trapped or tired of living, just say “fuck it” and do something yolo like moving to another country! Take care of yourselves.
Glad to hear you're feeling so much happier but get the book anyway if you can and keep it for emergencies! My copy is by my bed and even just glancing at it there helps me because I've read it so many times I know what the writer's message is.
I often think of my favourite quote from the book, which is (paraphrased) that there's one choice no-one can take away from you and that's to choose how you respond to whatever circumstances you find yourself in.