I’m scared i’ll mess this up

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I haven’t really been in a relationship. I dated someone properly for 2 months he meant a lot to me then left and told me I wasn’t affectionate enough yet he never did anything like hold my hand? And because it was my first time I was kind of waiting for his lead?
I don’t know what’s the right thing to do with men. I’ve been talking to someone new and seen him twice. The second time I mentioned going out. When we were out he arranged to do something the following weekend with me? So he must like me? Yet sometimes he’s terrible at replying but he says he doesn’t mean anything by it and I believe him. It’s just a pain waiting all day for him to text because he will just stop sometimes and then start again the day after. And i feel if I message him I’ll be pestering ?

Also the whole kissing and affection thing. I’m scared he will leave because I’m a shy timid girl and I’m really closed off. Like even nudging the boy is hard for me. And fancying him makes it harder. I’m easily embarrassed I’m even embarrassed by our kiss cause it happens so fast and I’m scared of being awful at it.

So what do I do? I don’t want to lose something because of ‘the affection wasn’t there’ again. Even though I kinda think that was an excuse from the last boy.
And I don’t know why the new boy is bothering with me I’m not pretty. He’s completely out of my league.

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  • Ellenna
    5 years ago

    Please stop worrying so much! Obviously if he's asked you out he likes you and not being what you regard as pretty has nothing to do with anything unless he's totally superficial, which you wouldn't want anyway, right? There are no "leagues" except in people's heads.

    He almost certainly already knows you're shy so try and be calm and relaxed and see how it goes. Good luck!

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  • CDmale4fem
    5 years ago

    I assume you are kind of young still ? Like under 20 ? You would have a real hard time dating a guy like me but your age group. You would really be shy, timid or maybe even scared. Lol

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    You'll be fine bro.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Well, if you like him, and he asks you out go out with him. If you want to kiss him, and he tries to kiss you, then let him kiss you. Try to relax, and just go with the kiss. Also, please know that just because someone has experience doesn't mean that he or she is a good kisser. I actually like to take the lead if I'm getting good vibes from a guy.

    Also, just because you let him kiss you doesn't mean that you're obligated to let him do whatever he wants. Don't do anything you don't want to do.

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