Husband with psychosis left me randomly?

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Didn't say anything left is with another girl now who is unhealthy for him. She's high 24/7 gets drunk a lot lives in an RV...

We were married lived in the house we had designed together it was built from the ground up and designed. We were there 5 years and very happy. He started developing odd habits , was disconnected, stared into space, cried then laughed, cried then laughed more, said he didn't know if anyone was real. This happened on and off for months. I told him to get help then he finally did they gave him meds he didn't take them.

I woke up he wasn't next to me. Called his cellphone he said he didn't want to be found. His friend said he was staying over their place so I showed up there once he was weird, sleeping there with the newly married couple and their 8 month old baby...

He didn't talk he was talking nonsense his friend told me he was worried. Then he ran off somewhere said he was taking a road trip. I left him be now I found out on the road trip he met some girl who lives in an RV and does drugs...now he started posting photos of them on his Facebook of their travels.

Am I legit experiencing this? I feel like it's a crazy dream... is this Normal? I knew him since we were 9! We are 28 now! He would be the last person to act this way.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    I'm very sorry that you're going through this. He is clearly unwell and needs psychological support. I hope that things improve with time

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    He obviously has deep mental problems. If you can track him down hopefully you can have him committed for a short time where they can strap him down if necessary and give him the medication he needs. I feel for the both of you.

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  • Kk1984
    5 years ago

    I'm sorry to hear this is happening. Does your husband have any history of recreational drugs use or is it possible he has been doing this without your knowledge? I ask because severe mental health exacerbation and drug induced behaviours can be very similar.

    As to your husbands current whereabouts. It must be very upsetting but quite often people with severe mental health issues will find the company of heavy drug users easier than (heavy air quotes) 'normal people. Their thought and behaviour patterns are often similarly erratic. So to the two of them they're perfectly normal and the rest of the universe is completely unreasonable.

    I'm not saying this is healthy for him but just offering an explanation for why he's in the bizarre situation he now is.

    Ultimately the only solution is for him to engage with medication and psychiatric support. Try to get his friends and family to keep an eye on him to make sure he's safe and as delicately as possible manoeuvre him to a safer more stable environment and get him engaging support.

    It will be difficult. And try to remember that depending on his mental state at any one moment you could, in his head, either be his loving supporting wife or some mental bitch plotting against him. Try to take a step back and not force things when he's being particularly bad.

    And good luck :)

    Lastly is it normal? Yes. Mental health disorders most commonly develop in males between 20 and 30. So relatively speaking your situation is normal. Just unfortunate.

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  • cipro
    5 years ago

    He is psychotic and needs antipsychotic medication. Take him to a psychiatrist.

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    • cipro
      5 years ago

      If he is medication non compliant they can give him depot injections.

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    I'm.. I'm so sorry you're going through this. You and your friend both but you especially must be going through a tough time.

    Is it normal? No. Your husband is obviously mentally ill and possibly doing drugs without your knowledge, and honestly, I have no idea what you should do. I think you should definitely have a talk with his friend about it, talk to whoever he talked to to get help and see what you can do next.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    I'm sorry for your loss. He doesn't sound worth getting back with in my less than humble opinion.

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    • IrishPotato
      5 years ago

      Rose for fuck sake, the man's mentally ill and the woman's in distress. You're so ignorant of reality. There's no place for your manhating shenanigans here.

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        You sound delusional, there are no shenanigans here. Additionally I don't appreciate presumptions about whether or not I hate men, as I never stated anywhere in my comment that I hate men.

        Regardless, OP is facing a lot of drama here. Sure the guy probably needs psychiatric care as well as drug rehabilitation, but if he's involved with some other woman that's called cheating. I don't think it's ever worth taking back a cheater, ever. The reality here, of which I have crystal clear awareness, is that there is probably some infidelity involved.

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        • IrishPotato
          5 years ago

          Obviously, but this is more than just your usual "man runs off with younger hussey" story and you act like it is.

          You have no place here.

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