I recommend couples' therapy. It sounds like both of you are suffering because of this, and you don't seem to be making a lot of progress just the two of you. An impartial, trained third party could be very helpful.
If money is a problem, your town probably has a community counseling center that offers services on a sliding scale - so if you're broke, it's only like five bucks a session, etc.
If the stigma associated with counseling is a problem, remember that your being in therapy is a sign that you are committed to your partner and want it to work, NOT a sign that you are messed up/crazy/doomed to divorce. IF your husband is reluctant, make it clear that you cannot tolerate his behavior, and his promise to fix it alone hasn't worked, so now you need the big guns (the counselor).
I wish you luck and am very sorry for your pain in what sounds like a VERY painful time. <3
I'm going to counseling myself starting this summer. He refuses so "oh well". I have a plan in mind and I will no doubt come out of this intact. At this juncture, I really don't care what he thinks.
Wierd thing, he joins "Chemistry.com", "Match.com", other wierd sites but doesn't pay to officially join them. He is just always on the prowl.
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I recommend couples' therapy. It sounds like both of you are suffering because of this, and you don't seem to be making a lot of progress just the two of you. An impartial, trained third party could be very helpful.
If money is a problem, your town probably has a community counseling center that offers services on a sliding scale - so if you're broke, it's only like five bucks a session, etc.
If the stigma associated with counseling is a problem, remember that your being in therapy is a sign that you are committed to your partner and want it to work, NOT a sign that you are messed up/crazy/doomed to divorce. IF your husband is reluctant, make it clear that you cannot tolerate his behavior, and his promise to fix it alone hasn't worked, so now you need the big guns (the counselor).
I wish you luck and am very sorry for your pain in what sounds like a VERY painful time. <3
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I'm going to counseling myself starting this summer. He refuses so "oh well". I have a plan in mind and I will no doubt come out of this intact. At this juncture, I really don't care what he thinks.
Wierd thing, he joins "Chemistry.com", "Match.com", other wierd sites but doesn't pay to officially join them. He is just always on the prowl.
Who cares...... when I go I'm talking half!