Husband left, no words, no call, nada

Is it normal for a husband to just abandon our marriage and not call to let me know what his intentions are? He crashed our pick-up, was taken to the hospital by ambulance, and I had to pick him up as his mother called me to let me know he needed to be picked up. We got release papers from police station & went to towing yard. From there, he got on a bike and rode away. I later found out he is at his mother's house. My mother-in-law tells me my husband says he "needs time" and "look at the damage I've done". But he has not called me, for nothing. He expects me to look for him, go to his mother's house and tell him, who knows what, or to tell him to come home. This is the second time he's left. The first time he left for a week and a half, now it's been 5 weeks. Is it normal? G.C. in CA

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8% Normal
Based on 134 votes (11 yes)
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Comments ( 22 )
  • lululu

    i know it's not easy especially if you have children but there's no other way to resolve this situation...you should break it up. have you ever tried to talk to him bout his attitude? if you did, what did he say? it sounds really immature and if i were in your shoes, i'd leave him at his mother's house cuz i've got no patience.

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  • SwimBikeRun

    And his mom sounds just as bad. She should put her teat away and kick his ass out.

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  • SwimBikeRun

    He sounds REALLY immature. Not normal unless he is 12.

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  • Decoder7

    Disgusting behaviour

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  • dappled

    It's not normal, no. He's in a marriage. You're supposed to communicate (and before issues spin out of control). I think most people here are going to agree with your standpoint. Sadly, our validation doesn't help your situation much. If you can get to speak to him, you should. If not, the best you can do is walk away too.

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  • pyt_1185

    Pray about it too.

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  • pyt_1185

    Mature adults don't leave their wife and family and go to their MOMS house. He needs to grow up, and it might just be a cop out for somethings that he really wants to do. Maybe he's a cheater and feels better about it if he blames you somehow or starts a fight and makes you fight so that he won't feel guilty. If he won't agree to marriage counseling or something to attempt to save the relationship, then I would throw in the towel. You will stress yourself sick if you don't.

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  • treemong66

    Leave him. It's the best thing you can do for you and for your children if you have any. And change the locks. Thats not normal or even stable behavior

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  • Lol some people just take longer to mature... I think he just wants attention... And doing it the childish way... And sounds a little moody too... Is he a cancer by any chance ?

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  • Timbuck55

    This dood has issues. Issues = bad. My favorite saying is "You can ALWAYS find someone better then the person your with." In your case, hes immature, selfish, and really could care less about your feelings. Get out while you can.

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  • MercedesBenz

    It almost sounds like something very emotionally traumatic has happened to him. As someone else said, people don't leave for no reason. The problem here is probably not you, but him. Obviously something is wrong and he needs some time to reasses his life and mental state. If you truly love this man, obviously you are going to give him some time, which is understandable. But don't let yourself be taken advantage of or taken as a fool. I know someone who was married for 10 years with 3 kids. One day he left in his truck and never came home. No calls, no letters, nothing. She waited 5 years before filing for divorce. Somehow they found him 5 states away. The first thing he said to her, "Why would you hurt me like that by filing for divorce? What about our girls?" WOW! he didn't get the memo did he? She continued with the filing obviously. Who does that?Someone with a mental issue. Only a man with some major issues does that. Don't be like this woman. Don't be a sucker. Give it some time, but don't stretch your own self worth too thin.

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  • xoxo29

    Not normal. Don't call or look for him. He just wants you to kiss up to him and beg. Leave him alone and sooner than later he'll realize what an idiot he is and he will come around. If he doesn't, then he's not worth worrying over. Good luck!

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  • ladymantoloveyoulongtime

    my sisters ex husband was like that. she kept taking him back time after time and he ended up cheating on her i dont know how many times. he obviously doesnt give two shakes about how you feel otherwise he would talk to you about what his issues are. so you need to ask yourself, do you really want to spend the rest of your life mothering your husband? its kinda gross if you think about it for a guy to want to marry someone like his mom. gotta make you wonder if they are thinking about their mums while getting jiggy....

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  • Dan

    No one just leaves without a reason.

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  • red_gal_85

    Did you do anything that would cause him to leave or does he do this out of the blue at random??? The very fact he's not communicating with you and getting his "mommy" to do his dirty work is a big red flag. You need a man not a child sounds like it's time to cut him loose....if you go over there asking him to come home it's like giving him permission to do it again and again....and your too good for that shit

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  • aussiewolf

    what a freakin child. sounds like a mummies boy, has be always been like that? do you have any kids? tell him to stay at his mothers house and just drop all his clothes on the front porch. then go out and find a real man.

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  • Fluff

    VERY juvenile.

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  • Proudfear

    leave him alone 4 a week or so then tell him come back or your gone, he may be sufering ptst and doesnt want u to see him like that. y did he leave b4

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  • 8Serene8

    I'd say get rid of him. He needs to grow up.

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  • regane

    That's just wrong

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  • theHun

    No

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  • ^ agreed

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