Correction, we went on dates after we lived together. But I paid for myself most of the time. At that point it was more of a couples night than a date. He only paid for both our dinners when he started making more money. But I always offer to pay for myself. About 80% of the time he would let me.
This other guy has bought me lunch at work(when we worked together) a couple times. When I tried to give him money he regarded it like a bad joke. On a few occasions I offered to buy him food when he had no money. I would bring up that I owe him and he dismissed it. He may have even sounded upset, saying that I don't owe him anything.
I'm exactly like the second guy (the one at work). I hate it when people pay for my stuff and I'm generally who pays for whoever I'm with (guys or girls). That being said, when I was in college I was broke all the time and girls paid for a lot of stuff for me. I wouldn't feel bad then cause I'd be salivating like crazy LOL.
Anyway, I think that instead of 'asking him out' you might want to befriend him and see whether he'd like to go and do something fun, or just say that you're bored out of your mind and ask whether he'd go for a drink or the mall or something.
I'm kind of a sissy so I wait until I'm over 80% sure that the girl likes me before making any move at all. I've lost a couple of girls to more adventurous guys because of this though, so it really is your call and what you're comfortable with.
How would you react to courtship by song?
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Correction, we went on dates after we lived together. But I paid for myself most of the time. At that point it was more of a couples night than a date. He only paid for both our dinners when he started making more money. But I always offer to pay for myself. About 80% of the time he would let me.
This other guy has bought me lunch at work(when we worked together) a couple times. When I tried to give him money he regarded it like a bad joke. On a few occasions I offered to buy him food when he had no money. I would bring up that I owe him and he dismissed it. He may have even sounded upset, saying that I don't owe him anything.
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I'm exactly like the second guy (the one at work). I hate it when people pay for my stuff and I'm generally who pays for whoever I'm with (guys or girls). That being said, when I was in college I was broke all the time and girls paid for a lot of stuff for me. I wouldn't feel bad then cause I'd be salivating like crazy LOL.
Anyway, I think that instead of 'asking him out' you might want to befriend him and see whether he'd like to go and do something fun, or just say that you're bored out of your mind and ask whether he'd go for a drink or the mall or something.
I'm kind of a sissy so I wait until I'm over 80% sure that the girl likes me before making any move at all. I've lost a couple of girls to more adventurous guys because of this though, so it really is your call and what you're comfortable with.