totally disagree, he needs to declare his interest. he shouldn't let fate win. Be polite and keep a good tone though, if she really really doesn't want to go out, then give up.
It's not fate. Believe it or not, a lot of women have a hard time saying no in fear of the guy getting upset. So we do little things like, "Hey, I'll call you instead!" But never call. Or agree to go out sometime, but quickly walk away without making specific plans on place or time.
It's misleading and confusing, but it's mostly for safety reasons. Oddly enough, a lot of women feel that the guy will get the hint to back off from this vague "yes, but no" approach. OP is smart, and got the hint. If he goes over there and confront her, he'll only make her feel scared and awkward.
Yeah, about 3 days after I asked her out, one of the other girls that works at her shop walked past my shop looking in at me; when I noticed her she turned back in the direction of her shop and walked back, typing something on her phone as she went. Can't help but feel like that was related like I was somehow judged by these girls. But who knows and to be honest it doesn't bother me its just disappointing cos I find her really attractive and would've liked to have gotten to know her.
If I had to guess, they were probably anticipating you confronting her and getting more forceful for her attention. Most attractive women have to deal with aggressive guys daily, so you just staying calm and moving on effortlessly probably confused them, especially since you two work just across from each other.
How would you deal with this?
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totally disagree, he needs to declare his interest. he shouldn't let fate win. Be polite and keep a good tone though, if she really really doesn't want to go out, then give up.
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He already did by asking for her number lol.
It's not fate. Believe it or not, a lot of women have a hard time saying no in fear of the guy getting upset. So we do little things like, "Hey, I'll call you instead!" But never call. Or agree to go out sometime, but quickly walk away without making specific plans on place or time.
It's misleading and confusing, but it's mostly for safety reasons. Oddly enough, a lot of women feel that the guy will get the hint to back off from this vague "yes, but no" approach. OP is smart, and got the hint. If he goes over there and confront her, he'll only make her feel scared and awkward.
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Yeah, about 3 days after I asked her out, one of the other girls that works at her shop walked past my shop looking in at me; when I noticed her she turned back in the direction of her shop and walked back, typing something on her phone as she went. Can't help but feel like that was related like I was somehow judged by these girls. But who knows and to be honest it doesn't bother me its just disappointing cos I find her really attractive and would've liked to have gotten to know her.
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If I had to guess, they were probably anticipating you confronting her and getting more forceful for her attention. Most attractive women have to deal with aggressive guys daily, so you just staying calm and moving on effortlessly probably confused them, especially since you two work just across from each other.
Don't worry about it, it's her lost.