Ugh...yeah, believe me I know the feeling. I think of things like that as a mental trick - it's like your brain tricking you. Cos it won't feel like it now, but there could totally be a point where you literally have no interest in her. But just due to the circumstances, it's gone the opposite way...
Ah, I dunno what I'm trying to say. But try and force yourself to think differently about her (much easier said than done, I know) sometimes visualisation exercises can help - sounds weird, but if you make pictures in your mind of how you *want* to be/feel/think, and mentally replace your current thoughts with that image...it can help. Alright, I'm probably not helping with this weird comment. Good luck anyway! ha..bye
The other thing is - try and be light-hearted about the whole thing. If you can have a good sense of humour/fun about it, that definitely makes things less awkward, takes the sting out of the knockback, and makes you feel better too.
You tried, which is more than most people can say! So it's like "Ah well, win some ya lose some". Even if you talk to her again, maybe joke about how she had her chance or whatever - ah I dunno - depends what your sense of humour is - but I think that helps a great deal.
Sorry for these long-winded replies. But you did good by even asking her out, so I think your sitting pretty tbh, defo no need to beat yourself up for doing more than most people would even do.
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Ugh...yeah, believe me I know the feeling. I think of things like that as a mental trick - it's like your brain tricking you. Cos it won't feel like it now, but there could totally be a point where you literally have no interest in her. But just due to the circumstances, it's gone the opposite way...
Ah, I dunno what I'm trying to say. But try and force yourself to think differently about her (much easier said than done, I know) sometimes visualisation exercises can help - sounds weird, but if you make pictures in your mind of how you *want* to be/feel/think, and mentally replace your current thoughts with that image...it can help. Alright, I'm probably not helping with this weird comment. Good luck anyway! ha..bye
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The other thing is - try and be light-hearted about the whole thing. If you can have a good sense of humour/fun about it, that definitely makes things less awkward, takes the sting out of the knockback, and makes you feel better too.
You tried, which is more than most people can say! So it's like "Ah well, win some ya lose some". Even if you talk to her again, maybe joke about how she had her chance or whatever - ah I dunno - depends what your sense of humour is - but I think that helps a great deal.
Sorry for these long-winded replies. But you did good by even asking her out, so I think your sitting pretty tbh, defo no need to beat yourself up for doing more than most people would even do.
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Haha I know what you mean and it's good advice, thank you :)