How to remain un anxious around a crush?

I really should have my act together right now but I have a crush on someone who's taken. Despite knowing this, I cant help but still act increasingly nervous and anxious around said person which is making me come across as somewhat "autistic". Oof :(
What to do as I will be going to a meet up this weekend and she will inevitably be there and I am feeling pre anxious already. I suppose you can say I am infatuated with their appearance. As soon as I lay eyes on them or they are trying to engage in eye contact and conversation I am a wreck and I feel highly embarrassed with not being able to get it together. It makes me look unattractive. My heart races and I feel a little shakey. Please dont assume my gender or sexual orientation.

Thanks

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  • curious-bunny

    No one cares about your gender or orientation.

    But I have no idea, I'm barely managing to get past my crush on my boss. Just gotta accept it wont happen I guess and move on

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    • Okay

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  • Why are you making preconceived assumptions

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  • Hahah what are you on about? Report me for making a post seeking advice. Why dont you use your time more importantly and report people who post disgusting shit like "how to have three somes, beastiality, infedality, incest, and everything else that is dark beyond normal and okay. You're so butt hurt over a random post. Why dont you grow up and spend your time complaining and reporting about posts that are needing it

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    • Ps none of those posts are mine

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  • SkullsNRoses

    Why are you nervous? Without wanting to sound mean you have no chance as she’s not available, so what exactly are you losing if she’s not impressed with you? Just let go, be your natural weird-ass self and see what happens. Worst case scenario she doesn’t like the real you and you can finally start to move on.

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    • I am automatically nervous because I feel this way around people I find attractive 🤷‍♀️

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  • AMERICANsavage

    Theres only a few things you can do to help this.

    1) betablockers: they naturally slow your heart rate and breathing. you wont feel the physical effects of anxiety on these. A dr will prescribe if you say you have anxiety and want ti try beta blockers. Atenalol is the best.

    2) meditation: it sounds cheesy and it really sucks its boring but if you can meditate for a good period of time before you see her it will slow you down a lot. Try to not have any thoughts in ypur mind as long as possible. Slow your breathing and shit

    3) just try to talk slower. Slow your speech down abit. Take your sweet as time with your responses. Be laid back as possible. It helps.

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  • Doesnormalmatter

    Try having sex with her! Worked for me once!

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    • AMERICANsavage

      Did you just assume their gender!?

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      • Doesnormalmatter

        Sorta, it was a super extremely well educated guess. I highly doubt such an attraction would be present in a woman, because of the sex drive desparity.

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        • Sex drive despariity? Like I said, dont assume my gender because I can guarantee you'll get it wrong along with my orientation

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          • StickusPhallus

            You are the same phony lesbian bitch on every one of these dumbass posts. get over yourself.

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            • Doesnormalmatter

              Yep, I'm reproting this cunt. Its clearly a troll and he has made many others recently.

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          • Doesnormalmatter

            Yeah, men have a higher sex drive than women. Are you fucking 8 years old??? Also, how about end the confusion shit and tell me your biological gender, sexual orientation and the biological gender of your 'crush'?

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            • Are you 8 years old? It's a world known epidemic. If you dont know this by now then either open your ears or grow the hell up

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  • AMERICANsavage

    "Please dont assume my gender" 🤣

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