How to go about dating a woman who has kids?

Her kids will always come before you. It's just a given. Accept it. Also I'd find out what her relationship is like with her ex. If that's a battle, drama in your future. Plus, it's gonna be more expensive everytime you guys do anything. This being said, I wouldn't shy away from her. Just be aware it's a lot of responsibility. And kids and you can get attached which can really suck if it doesn't work out.

Be open to hearing about them but don’t involve yourself in their lives until you plan to take y’all’s relationship seriously.

Also, she’s fertile as fuck. Wrap it up, boo.

Follow her lead. She may not even want to tell her kids about you.

A lot of people seem to think you're supposed to get in good with the kids and start acting like a family. If my husband and I split I would run a mile from any man who started trying to set up family days out. It's massively overstepping. Just be her boyfriend. She is a person in her own right, and not every romantic/ sexual relationship that she has needs to lead to the man taking her kids to the zoo at the weekend and pretending to be their new daddy.

If the dad is still involved, respect him. They are his and her children and they get first say. But just be kind to the kids, I personally love kids and think they're a lot of fun. I'd immediately buy the kids stuff but don't do that either, that's just something dumb I would do lol.

Just treat their mom well, hopefully she treats you well, and be respectful of her family.

Like most here, I'll be honest. You're potentially setting yourself up here. You're still relatively young, I'd look for a woman who you can start a family with and not simply join a pre-made family, ya'know?

If you feel like you can handle it and are ok with the family barrier dynamic and the responsibility of another man then that's on you but theres no shame in backing out.

Be careful, your young ,there will be many other women you will be as compatible with or even more so. And most likely even more attractive , without luggage.
Sometimes these things workout great but usually not.
She came on to you, you implied. Maybe looking for a Daddy.
Remember when you get into it the kids lives are affected too as in if you're there for a qhile and then it all goes pear shaped ( for whatever reason, your fault or hers ) they will suffer. Also there will be a bio dad or grandparents etc somewhere. Even if they're not around or interested (she may tell you that but maybe they are interested in the kids) but may pop up at anytime and while you are settled in and cozy and happy. This could throw all of your lives into turmoil.
Can be dangerous too.
I have alot of life expieience. I also have a friend who took on a woman with a family and they have a great life . But he had already had a family of his own and got divorced when the kids were grown . He was in his 40s when he took up with the new family so he was very expieienced in life and relationships and his is the only true success story i personally am familiar with.
With peace and love, be careful and best of luck with your long future ( you have sooo much time ) whatever you decide.

Try to include them. Maybe on the first date, offer to take them all to a movie? Or outing. Become their friend- they already have parents. Be genuinely interested in their lives, hobbies, etc.
When I was 12, and my single mom was dating I felt a lot of jealousy. Maybe lookup how to avoid jealousy in stepkids? Or when dating a single mom.
Also, and this is a big one...never lay a hand on those children except if it's a loving gesture...i.e. a high five, pat on the back, hug.
If you and their mom want private time, always do it with them not around. When they are with their father, or hire a babysitter.
Another big one...never let them hear you bad mouth their dad. They will hate you.

Make sure you arent getting a shit deal. If you make good money she should be hot af if you're gonna pay for her kids. She got baggage so she should atleast have something to offer you

I would not date women with kids

Never look at her kids and say your daughter/son is going to be hot someday. Mifht end badly

After the first couple meetings take the entire family to the zoo, park with hiking trails, etc. so that everyone can have a good time and they get to meet you.

The only way to show her that you are actually interested in more than short term companionship is to show here that you understand that you are looking for a relationship with her entire family - and that you will schedule and provide whole family activities appropriately. Cater to the needs of the kids - and be friendly (and hopefully make friends after a few of these).

I assure you that if you do this your next series of private dates will likely get more "intense" in a good way. While it never worked out long term for marriage... I've done this kind of dating several times before I met my wife.

Typically there were 2-3 private meetings first, then about 1 out of 3 or 1 out of 4 family outing dates. Works wonders...