How to get rid of jealousy?

Right now I am very jealous of this beautiful girl who is almost 6 ft tall and she has this long gorgeous thick dark hair. Her face kinda looks like a young Brooke Shields and she is extremely popular and has people surrounding her all the time. I’m only 5’3 and not nearly as beautiful. How do I stop feeling this way and being so insecure?

Is It Normal?
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  • Jealousy is such a wasted emotion, you just have to try and not worry about other people and realize in reality they're likely not comfortable with themselves and wishing they were like someone else as well. There is always someone that prefers you over her.

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  • Don't compare yourself to others, and delete any social medias that involve these women. Focus on yourself

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  • It's normal to feel jealous of other peoples looks from time to time but remember that everyone has a different type. Men that some women drool over i've found bland or even "too attractive" (I like people with some human flaws) and there's many others with the same type. You also need to find what works for you. Since everyone has different features and stuff different styles, makeup and colors suit different people and if you find what benefits you most it will do wonders for your looks and even though you will never be this woman you're jealous of that doesn't mean you aren't beautiful also and maybe she'd even envy some feature that you have but she doesn't. For example I wish I had freckles and naturally curly hair but many women who have those things hates it, covers their freckles and straightens their hair.

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  • Look girl you are beautiful and sexy at 5'3. Dont let no one tell you any difference.i am 6'5 and my girl is 5'2 so yes you are popular. Just let that jealousy go life to short to worry about what others look like or the people around them. Surround yourself with people who loves who you are a beautiful sexy lady and a personality everyone wants to be with!!!!

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  • I actually prefer shorter woman because I find them cute! There will always be people who like you better than the woman you mentioned.

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  • Find something more important, more fundamental to you in your life, and focus hard on marvelling at it and enjoying it. For me personally, resting in God makes me forget what other people have, and are doing. All that matters in that moment is the beauty of his love, and all the things in the world that reflect this love, and that he came to earth as a human like me, and the immensity of the cosmos.

    Everyone has their things that they marvel at.

    Find something deeper and more beautiful than that girl. Enjoy it so much that what that girl is, and has, start mattering to you less. And stay out of her way as much as possible so that you're not sucked back into envying her.

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  • Humans seem to be hard-wired to be attracted to people who look healthy, and facial symmetry and glossy hair are indicators of good genes, good prenatal nutrition and general good health. But the weird thing is that this girl whom you find beautiful could have been considered no more than so-so in other times and other cultures.

    Something you might want to consider is that physical beauty can be a curse as well as a blessing. "Pretty but dumb" is a cliché that works against attractive, intelligent women who find it very difficult to be taken seriously. Even when an attractive woman becomes successful in her field entirely because of her brains, interpersonal skills and hard work, there will always be those who are convinced she screwed her way to the top. However, as with most clichés, there is some degree of truth in it. Studies have found that people tend to give those who are physically attractive the benefit of the doubt, so attractive people who are able to fake some degree of competence can be promoted above their true capacities. While the additional money and power may be enjoyable, feeling like you're in over your head all the time is a shitty way to live. Also, since nobody wants to work harder than they really need to, people being keen to help out beautiful people can encourage them to be lazy and become a habitual user.

    Things also aren't all plain sailing for beautiful women when it comes to personal relationships. It's not unusual for guys with character traits that result in their relationships being positive experiences for a woman to be so intimidated by a woman's beauty that he feels she's completely out of his class, so he decides to keep away from her. On the other hand, it's very common for beautiful young women to find themselves the targets of almost constant unwanted male attention from shallow guys who are obsessed with physical appearances, have huge egos and a grossly inflated sense of entitlement. And it's not unusual for literal psychopaths to target-lock on a beautiful woman, then skilfully manipulate and use her because all they really want is to be envied for the pretty trophy that's hanging on their arm.

    As others have said, envying the woman is pointless. The only thing that will achieve is you feeling bad about yourself. People are capable of picking up on the subtle signals that are given out by those with low self-esteem, and they generally don't want to spend time with them. After all, the one person we all know best is ourselves. If a person hates themselves, then they must be pretty damn horrible, and why would any sane person choose to spend time with someone who's horrible? Before anyone else can really like you, you have to be confident that there are things about yourself that are positive. Let the pretty girl get on with her life, do your best to ignore all the fake, carefully curated BS on social media, and focus on being the best person you can be.

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  • Seriously? I'm 5'3" and I usually feel sorry for women way taller than me. Most guys won't date girls taller than them.

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  • Notice and show your own growing youthful beauty. You don't need to be especially pretty to be pretty. If you are not specially pretty, people don't refer to your beauty which leads you to think you're not pretty. Also short doesn't mean ugly.

    Also be yourself. Every personality is good for a different reason.

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  • You answered your own question. It’s your own insecurity that’s the cause of jealousy. Learn to value yourself and you’ll learn to celebrate the gifts that others have, instead of being envious.

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