How to get over low self-esteem?

I hate having low self-esteem and i dont know how to get over it. I feel like i am nothing, like im worthless, and like none of my friends or family really like me; it feels like they are just here because they pity me. Ive talked to my friends and family about this, they tell me they dont hate me but thats really it.
How can i start to feel better about myself? how can i make my happiness not depend so much on what others think of me? how can i stop caring so much?

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  • Youngvictoria

    The best way to increase self esteem if to find new ways to make something of yourself. Pursue your career with more ambition or pursue a new career, learn a new skill to become really good at and seize opportunities to share your new skill with others, or one of the easiest ways is to improve your physical condition. Start working out, running, or even better, take classes to learn a physical skill like dance or martial arts to become strong and focused. Keep yourself busy with any of these things and you won't have time to spend thinking down thoughts about yourself. In my experience trying introspective methods like journaling or even therapy actually make it worse, diving you deeper into your own little bubble of world experience and perception. You need to get out and do new things and accomplish things to love yourself more!! And also do NOT worry about what others think...this is for YOU!! You can do this.

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  • SherlockHolmes

    Just remember:

    "You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do."
    - Eleanor Roosevelt

    Do whatever the hell you want. Most of people are too occupied with themselves, worried about their job, family, low salary - their own happiness and/or misery.
    Just relax and be yourself. You only have one chance, one life to live. Besides, you're just stardust in this vast universe. It's not like you'll lift a finger and the apocalypse happens, and the universe erases itself.
    What you do it's meaningless to others, but meaningful to you. Be corageous, persevering, patient, honest, and don't worry about the others.

    ♡♥♡ BE YOURSELF! LOVE YOURSELF! ♡♥♡

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  • bubsy

    The largest source of 'personal dislike' comes when we don't do anything. When we go to bed feeling the day was wasted. The base of self-esteem is forged by hard work, creating or improving things (especially ourselves). Watching Netflix and playing videogames won't get the job done.

    If you've gotten that step down, and still feel bad, then you need to work on your self-compassion. Your inner voice, the one telling you you're an unworthly loser, isn't doing you any favors by being so critical. You need to learn to talk to yourself as you would a best friend.

    And when you're not so critical of yourself, you will take more risks, get braver and better.

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    • bellamybblake

      Thankyou

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  • RoseIsabella

    Maybe you could benefit from some cognitive behavioral therapy? You need to challenge these negative thoughts. It might sound corny, but some positive affirmations might be in order as well.

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